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      Onegirlandherdog
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      (timeframe removed by Moderator) I was assaulted by my partner while abroad, he hid my passport and turned my phone off from the supplier as my phone was on his account (cheaper). I came home early on an emergency passport.
      Anyway (timeframe removed by Moderator) on and I don’t know who I am, or who I have turned into. I have 2 emotions crying or angry my sense of humour has died, I am just about functioning, I have upset people at work ( work is stressful) and I am trying to deal With that as this is not me, I just feel everything is just so negative, my thoughts my feelings and I honestly don’t know if it’s me or if it’s work. I have no social life my friends are all couples and I am just really struggling at the moment. I have been referred to our work staff health but unsure if I should speak to my GP. I just feel like I am going through my days just managing to function as a human being on the treadmill of life. Any help or advice welcome. Thank you

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      EvenSerpentsShine
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      I don’t know if this helps, but I feel like I’m a different person now. I can suddenly feel myself falling into a rabbit hole ( I mean in the Alice in Wonderland sense) of anger and uncomfortable feelings. I don’t think I used to be like that. It’s usually about specific things, in my case being blamed for things I haven’t done, which was a very large feature of the abuse I suffered.
      Im no doctor, (removed by Moderator) but I think it may be a side effect of trauma.
      I have to actually force myself to stay out of those rabbit holes because I just don’t like the person I turn into. I feel like I’m not going to let him win by allowing him to ruin my future relationships with people.

      it may not be so easy for you, if you have a stressful job etc. It could take a while to see a doctor who knows about this, so maybe start with some books about it. (removed by Moderator) or Lundy Bancroft ‘ Why Does he do that’ are about domestic abuse, but you may be able to find more general books about trauma ‘the body keeps a score’ I haven’t read but it has a good reputation. Maybe others on the forum can recommend some books?

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