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He comes in the morning to take our child to SEN school, I am awaiting council funding. It affects our child being near him.
I cannot get her there.
He asked (detail removed by moderator) to have younger child over on (detail removed by moderator), not the evening which was agreed (detail removed by moderator). Because he works! Because it suits him. He said (detail removed by moderator), I do and i am not doing fun stuff as I help with school, cooking cleaning and dealing with the emotional aftermath of his effects of our children.
He questioned my intelligence (detail removed by moderator), said i am in control, (detail removed by moderator) he doesn’t want to argue, said really calmly. So he said his needs, wants to change the day, then said ask our child what he wants.What is this behaviour? I feel wronged and want to bring it up but he will say I am arguing. I have been poorly for a few weeks, he didn’t take time off (never did) I dealt with pur children whilst really sick (which is why my recovery is taking longer).
I don’t even know know the above makes sense?
My GP has given me a local organisations contact details to ring for support, it is run via local police. Should I contact them? I am unsure of what to say as my head is spinning, this is what happens, my head spins anxiety creeps back in and overwhelms me.
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I know how you feel, having the same problem myself. I just tried ringing the DA helpline but there was a queue so I hung up. I’m not sure what to say or what I want from them. I just know I am sick of still having him in my life. I accompany my young daughter on visits because I can’t trust him with her he tells her stupid things like she’s (detail removed by moderator)! I know he would manipulate her if he could. I am pretty sure it’s not really her he wants to see. We visit (detail removed by moderator) week which I think is too much. He follows me in his car, is always ringing and texting. I’ve had enough! We split well (detail removed by moderator). Sorry I am not much help to you, just want you to know you aren’t alone. It feels like you can never really be free.
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Whyohwhy thank you for your words 💗
I am planning today on reporting my estranged. I have phoned and left a message for them to ring me back, I am terrified and am unsure how to word it! Because the abuse is so subtle at times… except when he pinned our young boy down as a show of strength, my boy was crying and shouting (detail removed by moderator) 😔 I should have left him then but after me and kids we t away for (detail removed by moderator) I went back to him as believed all his lies and manipulating words.
Please keep ringing your local DA line, I think they tell you what number you are in the queue if you hang on? So sorry you are going through this too x*x -
It’s so hard when you really don’t know what to expect from them, they can be charming/vulnerable/angry/aggressive/cunning and switch from moment to moment. One minute you feel frightened of them the next you feel sorry for them and occasionally you miss the good times! And then you worry about the effect it must have on your child, if we’re confused by their behaviour how must they feel? I hope you can find an arrangement you feel comfortable with. And good luck with the call.
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