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      NotYourMaid
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      I’m happy (timeframe removed by Moderator). For all the wrong reasons.

      He came home (timeframe removed by Moderator) at some horrendously early morning hour, like, late enough that it’s more like, early morning than late night.

      He didn’t glare at me.

      He just feel asleep in bed next to me.

      The fact that he didn’t look so filled with hate when he came home made me ridiculously happy.

      I know it’s just the trauma bond.

      I didn’t feel this way.

      Especially since (timeframe removed by Moderator) I had been thinking that…

      he’s literally trying to starve me. I asked him for money to buy food, but he won’t give me any. I asked him if he was going to make me starve just because he’s mad at me, and he didn’t answer. That happened a few days ago, by the way.

      So I was thinking about it (timeframe removed by Moderator), and I realized that he’s deliberately taking non-action to starve me. He knows that humans die without food. So he’s passively trying to kill me. At least, that’s what I think.

      And yet, (timeframe removed by Moderator), he isn’t so tense, so I feel happy.

      Stupid, stupid trauma bond!!

      Thinking of going to the police, because I don’t want to starve to death just because some jerk is mad at me. I don’t know if they’ll be able to help me. I’ve been having so much difficulty getting help in this country, that I’ve kind of lost hope that I’ll get any help from them.

       

    • #174425
      EvenSerpentsShine
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      The police could be a good idea. I was wondering about your doctor (local equivalent of a g.p.) or even the hospital at a push?

      The lack of support where you are is staggering and I think we are all slightly in shock and disbelief that you can be treated like this and no one seems to be responding. They obviously have domestic violence organizations because you’ve said you’ve been in touch with them, but it’s difficult to imagine what they think their role is if it’s not to help you.

      Obviously a translator is absolutely key for you and I hope that they are available to you?

      It seems rather desperate and I feel very worried for you.
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      I’m responding here cause it hurts my heart to hear that you’re going through this. It’s extreme abuse and I pray that you find the strength to go to the cops and then a shelter and move on to a life you deserve. I KNOW it’s NOT easy (removed by Moderator).

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