I have woken up. Where do I start.

[Rinki]

Hi All,

I never imagined I’d ever be in this position.

I am a female with an Indian background. I have been married (number removed by Moderator) years and have 2 kids under age of (age removed by Moderator). I have come to realise that I have been emotionally abused over the years. Its not obvious but things like cultural conditioning (isolation from my family and being raised to believe I should carry out all domestic household duties, work and look after kids). Last (number removed by Moderator) years I have become stronger and stopped washing cooking and cleaning for my husband because I was feeling exhausted plus with working full time. He doesnt do anything and its been years like this. Hes terrible at saving money and is always out with his friends

I have realised I want to separation or divorce as its affected my eldest a little. Hes always wanting his dads attention and is manipulated him.

I have a reasonably good paying job but he gets paid (number removed by Moderator) more and we jointly own our home. Hes acquired 2 properties from his (relative removed by Moderator) and has been given large sums of money. I have been paying the bills all these years. He hardly pays for the kids things and necessaries.

We had a couple of arguments and he said I need to move out and he would remain in our home with the kids.

I need help. Where do I start? My plan is to save money and try to serve separation/ divorce papers on my own. Failing that, get a legal person in to start proceedings. I can afford the service of papers etc but I am worried if the costs increase. Does anyone know if I havent got the money or run out, how it can be funded. How much does an average divorce cost? Im scared of being used by a solicitor for money. (removed by Moderator)

 

This is so exhausting and causing me distress. I feel I have a case for domestic abuse in terms of emotional. I do have some evidence like emails from (number removed by Moderator) years ago with my family to say I have been told I cant see them (but they too said fine, I must not shout and get angry and prioritise him). Also things like telling my GP.

 

Please someone advise and help me

Thanks

[EvenSerpentsShine]

Typed a long reply to you but it was timed out and lost, sorry,

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