I helped someone

[Sad sunflower]

I also wanted to share on a separate post something that happened on (Detail removed by Moderator) after work. I went to get my car (the place where I park it is very dark and makes me anxious) and I heard two people fighting. As I approached my car, the lights went on and I could see a girl struggling to get out of the car parked right across of mine. I froze.

This girl (probably 20 years old or even younger) was screaming for help. I approached her and saw this young man grabbing her and trying to keep her from leaving. She told me he had hit her. I helped her get out of the car and put myself between her and her abuser. He kept yelling at her saying she was a s**t and that he didn’t want to rape her. As she was crying she told me that he had hit her and that she just wanted me to get her out of there. I drove her to her Uni and she called her dad to come pick her up. She also called the police. She kept thanking me and I told her she was doing the right thing reporting her boyfriend to the police as I never did.

The whole thing felt so surreal. As soon as I knew she was safe I left but I gave her my phone number in case she needed someone to talk to. As I was driving away, I started shaking and cried. I am not the type of person who cries a lot but I just couldn’t help it. I saw myself in that young girl. A good friend of mine says that a good way to close these cycles is to help other survivors and that he was proud of me. But now I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. I know I did the right thing by helping her and advising her to call the police (which thankfully she did) but it makes me uncomfortable that I didn’t think about my safety, I mean, what if that guy attacked me too? It just makes me so sick to see that violence is so much more common that I thought, that there’s so many of us out there suffering in silence. What would have happened to that young girl if I didn’t help her? So many things in my head right now!

[freedomtochoose]

I would say well done. You may never know what a difference you have made to this young woman’s life. And imagine you were her mum. She would be eternally grateful.

Also understandable you shook and needed some support.

My gut is saying yes, it was a risk, but you are aware of risks, probably more than most people – so your senses were probably very finely tuned at the time. And it was probably a calculated risk.

Take care of yourself now. It may well be a way of healing. You blessed someone else with your help and it is a complete priviledge to hear this story of yours.
all best
ftc
x

[Janedoeissad]

Sad Sunflower, what an amazing story!! Yes, you put yourself in the line of fire but ultimately you did this young lady a huge favour and saved her. As freedomtochoose says, her family will be forever grateful that you did that.

I was once being screamed at and berated by my Ex in a public place, he even threatened me with violence and not one person came to help. I think back to that time and think “why did no one help?”. YOU did help that girl. I would have been eternally grateful to anyone that would have helped me in that situation.

Please do not focus on what “could have been”. Be very proud that you helped this girl. I truly believe you were in the right place at the right time.

[Confused123]

well done hun for helping the other lady, always be aware of your safety too

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