I need advice/help?

[Seeckix]

My partner of (timeframe removed by Moderator) years has bought my (age removed by Moderator) year old child up from the age of (age removed by Moderator),he is (years removed by Moderator) years younger than me,his come from a s**t household as a child and got pushed from pillow to post as a child,I met him when he was at his most valuable,very anti drug and didn’t touch alcohol,over the years his met a few older ‘friends’ who do drugs on a daily and I’ve recently found out my partner is now doing drugs,the last (timeframe removed by Moderator) months I’ve kicked him out every week without fail,I tell him to take his belongings with him but he doesn’t then blocks me for days on end so he can go out and get drunk and take drugs,the randomly messages and asks to come back,his fine for a few days then goes back to his s****y self,I don’t like his ‘friends’ as they are bad influences he has a friend who is old enough to be his dad! I’m at my wits end I don’t know what to do,do I let him go and move on or try and help him? He has been abusive in the past and police did get called,I just don’t want to be without him! But can’t be with him when drugs and alcohol are his main priority? Any advice or suggestions please

[Lisa]

Hi Seeckix,

This sounds really difficult. Your partner is responsible for his own choices and behaviour and he’s choosing to continue this cycle. Part of what makes abuse so confusing is that it comes from someone that you care deeply with and have planned to spend your life with, I can see you’re really struggling with this. You’re not alone in feeling conflicted about whether to stay or leave. You could reach out to your local domestic abuse service for some ongoing support with making sense of things and thinking about your next steps.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

[Breadandbutterpudding]

Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom to realise they need help. I was in a relationship with an alcoholic, the abuse just got worse and worse in many ways and I’ve left for good now. I tried everything to help him. They need to want to do it themselves. Maybe him realising he could lose you will do it

[Endthecycle]

I can’t even imagine how difficult this time must be for you ❤️

(detail removed by Moderator) Girls at Bloom are very nice too. https://bloom.chayn.co/

my ex husband changed his behaviour towards me all of sudden its a trauma but there is so much help & even just looking for help online via web chat for example. Wishing you all the strength to get through this for a happy future. ❤️

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