I want support not divorce

[Mom of two]

hi all,

I’m in an marriage that has lot of potential and also tons of pain. we want to improve it and also there is tons of unhealthy behaviors so I need support but please refrain from telling me to leave we have our nice moments and I am motivated to work this out. (detail removed by moderator) but we want to stick it out together. I am motivated please help!

[Copevarde]

Hi there hope you are well! Would your partner consider some couples counselling? Maybe date nights?

What are the issues you have and I can think of some ideas

Sending you lots of support

Xxxx

[Bananaboat]

Whether you stay or go is entirely your choice, but learning about abuse helps with both options. Have you read Lundy Bancroft’s’why does he do that’ or Pat Craven’s ‘living with the dominator?’. It might help to get counselling by yourself to discuss the good & bad.

[Mom of two]

Hi
thank you for taking the time to respond to me!
The issues we have are religious and personality related.
we are very religious but I am less so then my husband. Problem is that in my community religion is a key factor in our lives. Therefor although my husband is forcing me to act and dress and do specific things with out compromising on anything to the point where I am emotionally choking and doing so in a domineering and controlling way he comes across the more righteous of us because he’s following our religion to the extreme. I just started therapy and I have our religious leader involved too. I am here for support and to have a safe place to share my pain. I am not concerned that my husband will find me here since he doesn’t use the internet as this is something our religion doesn’t allow. Just pointing in here that my religion is not a cult and its one of the mainstream ones just that I’m not identifying it.

[StrongLife]

I went to counseling and called help lines. I could not initially talk about him.

Hope that helps

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