I want to report him

[Elsie]

My abusive ex contacted me a couple of days ago, by sending me a nasty and manipulative message. I responded telling him to never contact me again and then blocked him on everything. Having to deal with him like that again bought back a lot of hurt and it makes me want to report him for what he did to me. The only evidence I have is text messages disclosing the abuse and what he did to me. I don’t know if that would be enough. I’m feeling scared of reporting him and I’m not sure if reporting would do me more harm than good…. Anyone have any thoughts or have been in a similar situation? Any replies are greatly appreciated.

[KIP.]

I was terrified of reporting my ex but so glad I did. Sounds like your ex is continuing his harrassment and I’d definitely report his abuse. Even if there isn’t enough evidence, your statement will corroborate other victims should they come forward. And there may already be other women who have reported him. These men just go through life from one victim to the next, destroying lives. It was something that empowered me. He’d had chance after chance to leave me alone. Now that you have evidence of telling him not to contact you, if he does again, don’t reply, don’t get into a back and forth with him. Just report it directly to the police. He obviously feels entitled to continue his abuse. The national domestic abuse helpline is available 24/7 and you can contact your local branch for support. Have you had any counselling? Contact is toxic with an abuser and causes triggers for us. You can get help dealing with these triggers from therapy. You could also talk to your local domestic abuse police unit. Don’t worry about evidence, that’s the job of the police to collect that. There will be witnesses or people you’ve told about The abuse. Any texts are great evidence, emails, previous or current victims. It’s not easy reporting abuse but there is lots of support for you. Victim Support are great too.

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