If you think you can't…

[shine bright 2]

I just wanted to post something positive after previously having so much support here.
My abuser is about to (detail removed by Moderator). I can’t believe I’m final at this point…(detail removed by Moderator) and everyone know.
I never thought I would stand up to him. I don’t think people here did either. There are so many stories of women being ignored and not given the help they need…I feel very lucky. I have been able to change my name and identity and move hundreds of miles. Most importantly people know the truth.
There have been some really determined people on my side and I thank God for them. At the point when I thought no one cared there was someone from the police who said “sometimes I wake up worrying g about you” the sentence that made me know that I had to do something. The same person who got us food so that we could eat when he stole from us.
I hope I can help other to believe they can do it. I married in my (detail removed by Moderator)…not technically arranged, but I was pressured because I had beven to friendly with him. I had grown up abroad and in a conservative background. The first time we had sex I had no idea what to expect and it really hurt…I just thought that’s how it was. He wanted lots of kids and by my (detail removed by Moderator) I had that.
We lived abroad a bit and that made things worse. I’m Muslim and his family wanted me to cover my face so I did even though I didn’t like it. I wanted to be a good wife, but it was awful. He would come home from work smash me up against a wall, pull up my robe and rape me.
When I got things wrong he said I needed to be “corrected” he did this with an electrical cable.
His sister used to help me put antiseptic on the cuts and they would cook stuff if he hurt me, but they wouldn’t stand up to him…thy just said I have to try harder.
When we got back here. Some neighbour me scream and reported him. The police saw the bruises but I didn’t press charges but I owned the house hereand with help I got him to leave.
That was the beginning of the nightmare. He threatened, followed, broke in, reported me missing, put up internet posts and sant porn to my friends and family. and finally hit and sexually assaulted me.
I have been through police, social workers, MARAC AND finally the protection that I have now. I know there are people who have found the police to be hopeless, but the police officer who has stood by my side since the start is like an angel to me along with people on here who listened when I described the awful things he did. I remember telling one policeman how.much I hated him but I know now that he has helped change my life..and it’s sad that I can’t thank him.
We are alive, we are safe and we are grateful. Life is hard. I can’t see friends, we can’t ho home, we can post pictures, we can’t talk about the past. Family have disowned me and labelled me as a w***e, bad muslim, bad mum etc…but I’m so grateful to be safe.

I hope that someone reads this and decides that if someone as weak as me can leave then thy can.

[starryeyed]

Hi Shine Bright 2,

You don’t sound weak to me – you sound incredibly strong! You stood up to him and he is going to (detail removed by Moderator). The things he did to you are horrific and I’m so glad to hear you are safe and got good support from the police and other agencies too. You are very inspiring <3

Take care of yourself and sending you all the best wishes to you, you deserve good things x*x

[Janedoeissad]

Shine Bright 2, what an absolutely incredible journey you have been on. You are a very brave and courageous woman.

I hope your good fortune continues and you have a happy life.

[KIP.]

I had faith in you all along and still do. You see it takes incredible strength to survive that kind of abuse and that kind of incredible strength is what will always see you through. Power to you ✊️

[Lisa]

Hello Shine Bright,

Thank you for sharing with us and for being part of the forum. Be proud of yourself just as we are. You have come so far and have done amazingly well. I am sure your story will be an inspiration to others reading.

I wish you the very best for your future!

Take care,

Lisa

[White Rose]

Hello Shine Bright lovely to hear you again! I think of you often and am glad you are safe.
Your story nearly broke my heart and I’m sorry I kept telling you off when you were threatening to let your weaker side win!
You are a truly amazing woman, “tough as old boots” as my dad would have said! I knew you’d come out the other side stronger and being able to be yourself. A new name doesn’t change your qualities it just keeps you safe.
Be happy and keep that light shining bright
Much love to you and your children xxxx

[lover of no contact]

Shinebright well done,

I remember you and your terrifying ordeals so well. You really are a miracle. I never thought it would get to this stage with him having to face the just consequences for his horrific behaviour to you. Your story gives such hope. Abusers are not as powerful as we or they think they are. I think things start to change when we reach out for support and slowly start posting/speaking out how things really are.

So very pleased for you and your children.

[freedomtochoose]

Thank you for posting this.
Yes, your story is an inspiration to me. Today I sat down to do something really difficult and had
the feeling that I can’t.
But after reading this and gaining inspiration. Maybe I can.
Thank you for being together with the other members of the community on this forum.
I hadn’t been posting very long, but it helps me in the tough times.
Bless you.
x

[shine bright 2]

Thank you starryed and Janedoeissad
KIP….thank you for having faith! I never thought I would come this far.

White Rose…tough as old boots…haha..sometimes.your tellings off kept me strong. I needed that.

Lover of no contact…I remember too. I remember posting here when he had assaulted me and I was too terrified to do a pregnancy test. It helped so much to have people here to talk to.
Freedom to chose… You can. I’m not a strong person…but with some help I did it. U can too.

And thank you Lisa for keeping this forum going…it has helped me so much over the years

[Ayanna]

You did not only stand up to him.
You had to go against an entire clan.
You are stronger than you know, because what you did requires super powers.
Keep up the good fight.
Hopefully other women in your situation get empowered by your story.

[shine bright 2]

Thanks Ayanna. I needed that today… So much. I feel like the loneliness is killing me. Taking ages to get all my new documents.. So I’m just at home all day. I’m used to working and finding it so hard.
(detail removed by Moderator) and I’m dreading that. Not sure I’m going to cope.

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