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[lilbird]

Hi all.
Not seeing any familiar names on here which I’m hoping is a good thing but if there are any of you ‘in the background’ then Hi.
years out but really don’t seem to be
to be moving forward. Keep looking back, upset, depressed. X

[Sad sunflower]

Hello @lilbird

I am sorry you feel depressed. I know what it feels like to live with the black dog of depression. It’s exhausting! I saw three different GPs and two Psychiatrist until I found the right combination of meds. I am not saying I’m OK right now as I have been struggling to get out of an abusive relationship for (detail removed by moderator) years, but at least I don’t feel miserable all the time. I have also found that doing one nice thing for myself everyday helps a lot. It doesn’t have to be something big, for example yesterday I bought myself a cheap hair mask as my hair is so dry and used it today. My hair looked good today and that made me feel on top of the world. I am sorry I am only talking about myself, I guess what I am trying to say is that maybe you can try that, buy yourself something nice (it doesn’t have to be expensive), take a walk at the park, give yourself a nice foot rub. Those little things do help a lot even if you don’t see it at first.

I really don’t know your story but it gives me hope to see that it is possible to stay out. I mean, you are (detail removed by moderator) years out, that’s something I really admire. You’re a strong woman, a fighter, a survivor. Remember that every time depression tries to sneak upon you. You deserve to be happy my dear, fight for it!

[White Rose]

Hi there! There’s lots of us still lurking…..
Chin up! Don’t be too hard on yourself and remember you’re not alone.
It’s nearly 2 in the morning. Can’t sleep. Still struggling with my final throws of divorce aftermath/finances….. it goes on and on and on and on all down to my evil ex messing me around but I’m still hopeful one day it will be all be sorted. It gets to me on days like today when he’s abusing his right to contact me about an issue he wont deal with through my solicitor and threatening to take me to court etc etc etc. Even though I only really read the relevant stuff he sends and only reply with the same statement each time, I end up mulling it over wishing I could just say “just get on and do what court told you to do “x” years ago you lying evil little man and f off out of my life” but I can’t, so he just gets the same one liner I agreed on with my solicitor. He must be bored of reading it!
I’m just so tired of his ranting on. What does he think it’s going to achieve? Then I have days when I think what I left behind – that fear, those eggshells, that huge stress and anxiety and it makes me feel a lot better. Some days I even forget about it all together.
Focus on where you are not where you were and think about what a different woman you are now.
I love sad sunflowers idea of a hair mask – give it a go? I’m going to get something to pamper my graying dried out hair with tomorrow (today!). Maybe you could buy yourself some flowers or visit a park and sit in the sun with an ice cream. Remember to be kind to yourself.
Take care x*x

[Confused123]

Hey Hun

Rememeber your name , i dont come on here that much but just felt like checking in on u ladies, we all progress at our own pace , take each day at a time

[freedomtochoose]

would go with that, really appreciate the presence of so called ‘old timer’s it is really good thanks as the journey is a long one and we all need to know how it looks in the long term. Thannks
ftc
x

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