I’m not going back this time

[little-miss-sunshine]

Hi ladies,

Not sure if you’ll remember me, I was posting a few months ago. I went back again due to him taking some positive action (he actually did the thing rather than just making empty promises) but obviously that came to nothing. I stopped posting because I felt a bit ashamed of myself.

I left again a while ago, it does feel different this time. It got scary towards the end (I thought he might hurt me physically) I feel like I had hit rock bottom. Luckily my family took me back and I’m slowly recovering.

Please let me know how you are all doing, much love x*x

[Bananaboat]

Well done for getting away and deciding no more. You have nothing to feel ashamed for. So many of us here tried and tried again, we have to see for ourselves & accept that they won’t change before leaving sticks. Look after yourself as this bit after is a rollercoaster of emotions as your brain processes everything. x

[Hereforhelp]

Well done for getting out ❤️ no judgements are made on here, It took me 3 attempts before I finally left for good… Have you support in place? The next few months may bring up some strong emotions, keep posting ❤️

[Starting-again]

Please don’t feel ashamed, personally my ‘second chances’ went into double figures. We were with these people because we loved them, of course we wanted to think it would be different. But we have to come to the understanding on our own. It took my ex leaving me for someone else for me to finally see who he was.
Be kind to yourself, look after yourself. We will all be here to support you xx

[little-miss-sunshine]

Thank you so much for your support ladies, really means a lot ❤️ I think I’m still in denial, been a mess all the other times I tried to leave. I’m sure the strong emotions will come eventually, my family are being really supportive which is so helpful. Need to get some sort of therapy sorted, haven’t got that far yet. Still in the nasty admin (mostly changing addresses) stage. That’s keeping me occupied at least.

Hope you’re all ok, I will keep posting it helps to know you’re all out there. Much love x*x

[Reallyconfused]

No judgements. Emotions are not light switches. It takes time to come to terms with reality and it’s so so tiring because the brain is in a constant tug of war. It’s enough keeping body and soul together. Keep going.

[StrongLife]

Domestic violence therapy would be a good way forward.

I know from my experience that I left more than once. It’s difficult to leave. There is a lot to consider.

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