I’m sick of having

[betterdays]

Nightmares over him. It’s happening more now than ever and I just don’t know why. I hope this stops. X

[KIP.]

I had this for a while too. I think it’s your brain detoxing. It doesn’t help having him drive by and still in your life. Hopefully when you move there will be lots of nice distractions for you X time and no contact worked for me. I still sleep with the light on and a radio on low so,that if I wake anxious there’s something to distract me right away X I hope you have a great day whatever you are doing, make sure you treat yourself even if it’s just your fav chocolate or if you get the chance and nice bubble bath. I used to love bathing with my son.

[betterdays]

Thanks kip in the past yrs ago when is seperated from him I used to sleep with lamp on and lock my bedroom door as it were only way I felt safe xx

[Lilycat]

I still have dreams about my abusers, too. My therapist taught me a technique that involves writing out the dream on paper, changing the ending to the one you want and re-reading the story over and over again just before bed. I have tried this and although I don’t get the ending I write, most of the dreams are less disturbing and violent than they were when I first started having them.

Do try this. It may help a little.

I agree with KIP that your brain is detoxing. As I have found, from experience, this is a kind of progression. I didn’t have nightmares about my abusers until several months after I left them, because my mind needed to be in a safe place before releasing subsconscious emotions and fears. Now I am at stage two- taming the dreams.

Good luck. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Lilycat x

[Anonymous]

I slept with a knife under my pillow i was so fearful of him!! I take a sleeping aid . My flash backs made me feel so sick and shakey but iam getting stronger each day hugs to you hun x

[Serenity]

I still have horrible dreams in which he appears, from time to time.

When I do, I lie there, take a deep breath and chant to myself over and over ‘I am safe.’ It seems to help.

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