I'm thinking of setting up cameras

[Ariel]

I’m thinking of setting up those tiny cameras so when I tell him I want him to leave if he goes mad it will be proof. He’s only been violent a few times and this is when he thinks I’m going to leave or something. Has anyone done anything like this. I think maybe I’m just going mad trying to think of ways out of this.
Womens aid have said I can get him out with an injunction but I think that will send him up the wall and I don’t think the kids will thank me for throwing him out either…..

[KIP.]

Get the injunction. You’re not thinking straight. Why record him when he could kill you. Get him out using the injunction then set up cameras as proof when he returns and breaks the injunction. The kids will understand when they have a safe home without an abuser x

[Chickadee]

Ariel.

Get the injunction to remove him. I agree with K.I.P. your not thinking straight. Even informing your abuser of what you are doing places you in the “Danger Zone.” While I understand your desire for validation etc., there are people that “get this.” Trying to shoot it and putting yourself in that position could be the last time you ever set up a camera for a shot, as you COULD literally be taping your own murder. You stated yourself, when you mention leaving is when he has become/increased violence. That is because he has to have control and will go to any length to keep it. It is all about power and control.

Do not tell an abuser your leaving. Get the injunction offered to you. Stay Safe!

Here when you need to talk. Hugs.

Chickadee

[backtome]

Just to add, I’m 90% sure that unless you inform people that they are being recorded it’s not evidence that can be used in court. I could be wrong about that so you may want to check with someone qualified.

I agree with the others, get the injunction, get him removed by police, you need to do it the safest way possible.

Good luck and stay safe x*x

[Poodlepower]

I understand why you’d want to do that. Amongst other things, my ex used to go beserk if I didn’t wake him at the time he instructed me to-he hated me being up and about when he was sleeping. Bit often he would mutter incoherently so I’d give him 20 more mins, then another 10, then another…up and down the stairs for a couple of hours until he finally woke and screamed at me for not waking him at the original time. So I recorded myself trying to wake him up, to prove I’d tried. But when I tried to use this t stop him being angry, he got even angrier and called me a “creep.”
Bit of a no-win situation really!

[Ariel]

OK thank you all. Sometimes I do feel I can’t think straight and I just get all panicked in my chest. I won’t do the camera’s. That must be awful poodlepower but I can so imagine it. It’s similar when I tell him I’m going somewhere like coffee with a friend he will pretend I didn’t tell him so then I can’t go. I’m supposed to be going out for the day with my mum (Detail removed by Moderator) he has the ump with this as he’s not going. It will be nice to get out but I’ll have that feeling of him having the ump all day in my stomach…keep well and safe everyone

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