Is this abuse?

[Changed times]

Name calling it’s very specific and could be identified.
Degrading disrespectful humour and when I got upset and offended I was told to lighten up?
Telling me how I should talk i.e be more friendly and chatty with people?
Ignoring me with silence when I try & talk to him?
Witholding physically & emotionally?
Feeling frightened and disloyal if I speak up and disagree?

[Lisa]

Hi Changed times,

These are all examples of coercive, controlling behaviour; so yes, absolutely this is abuse.
You may find it useful to read through the information on Coercive Control on Women’s Aid website.
Know you have options and there is support out there for you. Your local domestic abuse service can talk all this over with you in more depth, so you can begin to feel you have options in how to move forward. They can offer both emotional and practical help too and are a free service, so use them on-going as you need.
Do keep posting here to let us know how you are. We are all here for you and understand how you’re feeling.

Take care,

Lisa

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