It continues

[Sleepypigeon]

Hi,
After some time of nothing happening, didn’t think he had given up but hoped. The ex has approached a colleague of mine and tried to talk to them.
He had previously tried and been cut of by my colleague.
I have not told work anything apart from being separated.
Do I need to tell work, or should I tell them incase he try to smear my reputation with lies?
My colleague knows some and says there not interested in listening to him but what if they start to believe the lies?
Feeling fragile today, I dont care what he tells strangers but this is different.

[gettingtired]

Hey, I would definitely inform your work. It sounds like he’s up to something and we all know how charming and genuine abusers can seem.
You could initally just speak to management/HR if you don’t want to tell everyone x

[Sleepypigeon]

Hi, what do I say, how much do I tell? How do you trust even management in small area/community?

[Darcy]

Hi my beautiful angel… sleepypigeon
I would definitely tell someone in a position of authority at work, if anything does happen it is all on record then
I know its scary but once you speak with someone you will feel a little more empowered
Don’t give this man any air time and ask your colleague not to either
My ex did some nasty things to shame me once we had split up… I felt shame, but once I acknowledged this I began to get my power back
I wasn’t going to engage in his circus games
Your ex will think that you will be to scared to tell anyone, this then gives him the green light to continue. So show him that you are not that scared little girl he use to know. You are a strong and powerful woman.
Don’t let him pull you back into that mind set … dust yourself off … you got this
Sending you love and support
D xx

[Sleepypigeon]

Thank you for your kind words. I plucked up the courage to speak to the colleague and company boss this afternoon. Although I’m sure they think I am over reacting and things will blow over, I am glad I spoke to them, even although I got upset which anoys me as it makes me look weak. When someone on the outside looks perfect I no its hard for people to believe you.

[Darcy]

Well done for doing this …
Don’t worry about your boss, its hard for others to understand if they haven’t experienced it. The point is you told them.
Let’s hope they are right and it will all blow over.
Don’t worry about the tears, let it out when it need to come out, the point is you found your voice again…so give your self some much over due and deserved credit✨

[Sleepypigeon]

Thank you for your support 🙏
I’m truly grateful. Feeling so worn out today after this. But I’m trying to be strong or appear to be even when I don’t feel it x

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