It’s too much

[Babs]

My ex is continually trying to regain control. (detail removed by moderator) we agreed a time for him to call by to collect some of his belongings. I had it all ready and (detail removed by moderator) My ex then rocks up with his new partner, the woman he had an affair with whilst we were married. So I had them both stood on my doorstep. I don’t lower myself to his standards and merely handed over his things. But he only brought her to gain control (detail removed by moderator)

I felt ready to cope with him today, but seeing her was just too much. I know I will be fine and by tomorrow I will have regrouped mentally. But just how low can someone stoop?

I know he’s manipulating his new partner. I see him for who he is. And I thank my lucky stars every single day that he left me. I just want this divorce to be over but he’s not making it easy and he’s trying to wear me down.

[Twisted Sister]

Hi Babs

She wasn’t invited, and in future in your dealings with him, don’t arrange anything face to face anymore. Whilst you start to heal and move on, you will need your space, and that includes seeing him and his manipulations first hand.

You know he’s done this deliberately to grind salt into your wounds, which just shows you what an horrific man he is, and how deliberately cruel he is. As his new woman, I would have wondered hugely what he thought he was doing inviting me to join him in collecting his belongings, even to the point of going to your door, there was zero purpose for that, other than to be deliberately cruel to you. All of this you know, and I’m glad you also know that you will be getting over it and moving forward with your life. Perhaps it was a timely reminder of exactly who he is and how to take things forward to protect yourself from his cruelties in the future.

Keep strong, as you are, and you know the situation, and have to keep that step ahead of him.

warmest wsihes

ts

[Babs]

Thank you TS. I have practiced self care today and feel so much better. I really appreciate you taking the time to answer my post and you’ve confirmed everything I have been thinking. I take great strength from the knowledge that he has absolutely no idea who he is dealing with now, as since the day he left I have regrown my wings and am more confident than I have been for decades.

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