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    • #24648
      KIP.
      Participant

      What’s the matter with me? Is it part of recovering? Being able to stand up and fight back or is there something else going on? I know how dangerous my ex is, court orders in place, but instead of keeping my head down, I had a chance to give him a great big poke. And I did. And he is going to know right away who held the poking stick. I feel wreckless. Terrified but insanely proud at the same time.

    • #24653
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      I dont’ blame you KIP, you are doing nothing wrong Its natural to want to poke the bear when he has been so downright awful to you. Good on you is what i say. I am so happy that you are taking the (detail removed by Moderator) to court. Hopefully he will incur a criminal record, which will in turn mean that he will have to reveal this in certain things, job applications, credit applications I think. If I had solid dirt on my ex I would get great pleasure in bringing him down.

      Have you given any thought to how you will move forward once the court case is over? still living where you do i mean. I know that he lives close to you. You have said before how terrified you are of him and that he is dangerous. Is it not an option for you to move away, a fresh start? Like Betterdays is going to do.

    • #24655
      Serenity
      Participant

      Because you’ve not finished with him yet.

      He put you through hell, and you won’t rest until he gets at least some of his comeuppance.

      I am the same. My ex will have a big shock waiting for him a few months down the line. It’s not for revenge- it’s for justice.

    • #24661
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      Iam the same iam fighting my ex all the way to court!!! Yes i blame myself for opening to my ex about my past . But for him to to hurt me .. by trying to stop me from working.. and be solely dependant on him nah!!! I got a heart of gold its been broke so many tines .. now iam fighting to destroy him

    • #24672
      KIP.
      Participant

      Hi there, my family and friends live in this town. I won’t move. My ex also made me give up work. Made me too ill to work. Kept me at home at his beck and call. He already has a criminal conviction for what he did to me. This might be the icing on the cake. I said to my sister I don’t want to appear vengeful. She says I have every right to be vengeful! 😈

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