Just checking in ..

[Hiya@]

Hello,
Thought I would just jump in and say hello, it’s been a while. Can I just say this forum was an absolute help and support during some of my darkest days, so firstly thank and secondly I’m still ok.
Well quite a few months ago I left an extraordinarily difficult long term relationship, I am talking many years of prolonged abuse. I spent many’s months in intensive therapy, which I am unbelievably grateful for ( it wasn’t an easy process ) and I plan to pick it back up again in the autumn.
I managed to get back into my house, which I’m still selling because it’s the only way I am ever going to get some closure. I do have contact with my ex and honestly I could easily go back, but I know in my heart it’s just not right and of course he is being to a point very charming and amiable, but I know him well and he is unable to sustain this for any length of time.
The difference is I now know what happiness feels like, I had forgotten what it felt like to feel happy! And being with him I was miserable tho you never would have known it.
So I’m doing ok, it does get better . I didn’t think it ever would and I am aware that I still have a long way to go, but I am healing not healed.

Sending love and support to anyone of you who needs it x

[Lisa]

Hi Hiya@,

Thank you for your post. You mentioned you now know what happiness feels like- that is amazing and you deserve to feel safe. It sounds like you are seeing his behaviour for what it is and I know its not easy setting those boundaries, but you are doing it and finally putting yourself first.

I’m glad the forum has been so helpful for you, that is what it is here for.

Best Wishes

Lisa

[Texas]

Yay go you!!! You are smashing it!!!

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