Just need a hug

[Ricepudding]

I just feel low at the moment All I want is a hug.

[spiritedaway]

I was exactly the same yesterday. Se ding hugs

[browneyedmum]

Here you go Ricey! Put your left hand on your right shoulder. Put your right hand on your left shoulder. And SQUEEZE!!! That’s from me. Look after yourself xX.

[Ricepudding]

Thank you all so much for the hugs just feeling a little lonely at the moment.

[Ricepudding]

Well I’m here again the car has broken the (detail removed by moderator) and he is making out that I’ve broke it and he is going to have to put himself out next week to take me to work. I have already told him I can make my own way to work. I’m just so tired so many problems and no solution. I feel like I’m spinning plates juggling eggs and fire eating all at the same time by the end of the day my plates are smash my eggs are all broken and I’ve burnt of all my hair.Thats my day I climb into bed cry myself to sleep and face it all again tomorrow.

[nbumblebee]

Yup. 12 hours in hospital being by the side of a close family member come home to moans of im your family too. The house is a mess ive had to clean and on and on then at night he wants and expects sex. I sit on my bathroom floor and cry. Pull myself up and start again.
Some days its all we can do i guess. Sending you a hug sweetie. X

[Ricepudding]

Hi its been a few weeks I had to go back to the doctor’s as my blood pressure is (detail removed by Moderator). now my therapist has ended her sessions and told me I’m codependent. What am I ment to do now…. just when I think I’m balancing my boat he makes a comment that he is going to (detail removed by Moderator) then he tells me it’s a joke. I am feeling a little scared now.

[Sad and alone]

Hey ricepudding, sending you a hug and to say hope you’re doing okay today.
Your post has been moderated so I don’t know what he said. Something against you, something against himself? Either way is there anyone at all you can confide in or give a heads up to? If not please please call the police if there’s any chance of you being harmed. I would disregard threats of anything against himself which he will use to manipulate you and make you feel guilty.
Take care and keep posting. Someone will always be here to listen xx

[Ricepudding]

Same s**t different day just can’t seem to get of this hamster  wheel. Feels like the more I try the faster the wheel goes. It’s been (time frame removed by Moderator) and people say look how far you’ve come I’ve got now where. Fighting to survive and still haven’t found anywhere to live with just more care giving to him he wants me to give up my job to look after him 24/7 I just want a hug but not from him dose that sound harsh of me

[Cherries]

Not harsh at all. Its normal to not want to hug someone who makes you miserable.  Its an intimate thing built on safety, trust and love. An abuser is none of those things.

Its never easy leaving an abusive relationship.  Often we come out with little. But all we really need is a safe place and then we can go from there rebuilding everything else.

I got on the housing priority list with the help of the DA hub at my local council. I also applied to every housing association I could, and looked at private rent I could afford (not much…housing market is mental right now)

I know its hard – but there is NEVER a time where this will suddenly be easy. They won’t change. We get worn down. Sicker. The longer you stay the worse it gets and the harder it becomes to leave because you lose hope.

Rooting for you x

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