leaving (detail removed by moderator) …. words of support pls! ;)

[abcxyz]

Have the keys to rented place, have moved some bits but he keeps talking about xmas plans and all sorts of other things and I feel so bad. I know that I have no other option …The lack of stability and the verbal abuse continues but I still feel so horrid. He has a really hard day at work lined up tomorrow and will come home to a solicitor’s letter asking him to move out in 7 days. Just keep having to remind myself of the mental torture he has caused me and of the lovely safe feeling I dream of. Still not sure where to tell the kids and what to say but will work on something diplomatic. Any words of “it is all worth it” much appreciated xxxx

[EeyoreNoMore]

How exciting. And terrifying. Can you make a note somewhere of all the reasons you have for leaving? Of how he’s made you feel? Things hat can remind you why you’re doing this for when you start to wobble and wonder if you’ve done the right thing (which if course you have undeniably!)

Good luck, stay strong and here’s to your future happiness and safety xx

[abcxyz]

Yes ….I had the same thought. …Small list on my phone of all the things I will no longer have to do and huge back catalogue on my computer. …. such a mess with ur head when you know all that happened and then they can be just “normal”!x

[EeyoreNoMore]

Oh they absolutely mess with your head. I’ve been out of my relationship a relatively short period of time but it’s amazing how the fog clears and you can see normal again. You’ll have lows, that goes without saying but you’ll have normal back – how amazing is THAT!!

[Peaceful Pig]

I can clearly remember shortly after I left my ex, the first time I woke up in my new place, lying on my back, arms above my head, feeling safe and peaceful. It was wonderful! You sound strong, organised and prepared. You can do it. Your children are resilient, you are taking action that will greatly improve their lives long term. Keep believing in yourself and good luck x*x

[KIP.]

It’s exhausting trying to keep the peace all the time. It’s a wonderful feeling to shut the door and feel safe. The only thing is I worry for your safety. Once he gets the letter, please stay safe. Don’t be alone with him X

[abcxyz]

Thank you all so much. I don’t think I could have done this without having all of you on hand x*x

[Healthyarchive]

Congratulations, this is the beginning of your peaceful new life. Good luck X*X

[Lisa]

Hi abcxyz,

I just wanted to wish you well with your move. Please do be careful at this time and perhaps think about phoning the helpline for some safety planning advice.

We are all here for you. Please stay safe.

Best wishes,

Lisa
Forum Moderator

[EeyoreNoMore]

Been thinking about you today. Sending good wishes and happy thoughts xx

[WalkerInTheRain]

Wishing you well.

Keep breathing, keep reminding yourself why you are doing this and most of all keep safe.

You deserve happiness. You deserved to feel loved and cherished. You deserve to feel safe and secure.

xx

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