Left a few years ago

[Iwantmeback]

Hi all, it’s been a good few years since I was last on here. A lot has happened and I’m thankful to report that I’m now officially divorced. Not that it’s made any real difference apart from no longer getting told, but you’re still my wife. I’ve not instigated contact, done all the right things, yet he’s still there. I can’t prove stalking, yet it is what he’s doing. He found out where I lived a short time after I moved in. I’ve now got insomnia, as you can see by the time I’m posting this. On the plus side I’m no longer afraid to stand up for myself but I’m noticing his old ways are creeping back in, bad mouthing in public and gaslighting for sure. I thought once we were officially divorced that he’d really leave me alone but circumstances have prevented that. On the whole being in my own house with my lovely dog is great, peace and quiet is blissful. I’m not lonely even though I am alone. I’ve learned so much over the years, the best thing was facing my emotions when they arose, addressing the issues those emotions triggered rather than shying away from them, it really does help to process things so much quicker and the more you face those emotions and feelings, the quicker it takes for your body to recalibrate.
Anyway, I just wanted to say hi and that I’ll be around for a while, as I’m struggling a bit and I know having a great support system in place is the best thing in our recovery.
Best wishes to everyone
IWMB 💞💞

[Lisa]

Hi Iwantmeback,

Welcome back to the forum and thank you for sharing your update with us. Thank you for your supportive replies to others too, it is really appreciated. Keep posting when you can- we are here for you as always.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[Chocolatebunnie]

Hi I want me back

It’s lovely to hear from you.

I wondered how life was for you having left your husband and I’m happy to hear you have some peace and a safe home with yourself and your dog 🥰

I hope you manage to find a way to completely break away from your husband.

Big hug to you as you say you’re struggling. I also gave spells of insomnia its rotten.

Best wishes CB X

[Twisted Sister]

Hi IWMB

Sorry to hear that you are still having to contend with your, now ex, husband.

If he has found you, that is proof that he’s been stalking, unless you know someone that knows him and would tell him? or some innocent mistake has occurred, but have you spoken to the Stalking helpline?

So pleased you have found peace in your new home and dealing with your recovery so well.

I hope you can soon be rid of your ex, and find ways to keep yourself protected from his intrusions into your life.

warmest wishes

ts

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