Left him but he’s still there

[Oceanastar]

I have been on here a few times and get strength from you and your words.
I’ve managed to get away from well I can’t find the words to describe him.
Since leaving him with my daughter I have had constant messages, he’s sobbing down the phone. He’s saying he will change, that I’ve got it wrong. He’s messing about on social media and contacting my family.
I have eventually blocked him and only unblock him for a few hours so he can contact his daughter. He doesn’t want her, doesn’t want to speak to her. Will only bother with her if he gets me.
My daughter is upset, we are living without her own comforts because he won’t leave the family home and I’m tied to him financially.
Our relationship is littered with his cocaine abuse and that it was has turned him into the man I don’t recognise anymore. I’ve mentioned in previous posts the hidden camera, the punching of the wall, the lack of respect and his selfishness of being his cleaner his constant accusations of me being unfaithful, I have been faithful. Me walking on eggshells watching everything I say, do or where I go but his behaviours are still there even though I am away from him..
His family are no use, they aren’t supportive in fact I’ve had not one message to ask how my daughter and me are ok or need anything. His mum is very poorly at the moment infact I’d say she’s dying. I had told him if he (detail removed by moderator) I’ll consider co parenting – he called his dying mum (detail removed by moderator). Then screamed at me down the phone because I put him in his place saying (detail removed by moderator). Before that he told me his mum was terminal and he needed me!
I’m trying to do the right thing by my daughter, him, his family, my family and me yet I’m being trampled on. I feel like screaming. I’ve blocked him again as it’s clear he can’t be a man, a dad, a normal caring human being but I am just checking I’m not overreacting am I :(xx I don’t know if I’m coming or going anymore and he’s unpredictable

[Eggshells]

There are only 2 people that you need to do the right thing by now. Your daughter and yourself.

Everyone else can and will take care of themselves.

Please talk to your local DV charity for support and don’t allow him to contact you again.

If he genuinely wants to talk to your daughter and you feel that is the best thing for your daughter, I’d recommend a cheap burner phone that he can speak to her on.

Answer it only when you feel it will be beneficial for your daughter, don’t talk to him on it at all and put it on speakerphone so that you can monitor the conversation. You have a duty to safeguard her. If he asks your daughter to let him speak to you, just hang up.

[Oceanastar]

Thank you for your advice I am truly grateful xx

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