Life in general

[Anonymous]

Have you ever looked back at your life and thought how did you get to where you are, how did things get so bad and why couldnt you have changed it? I read my posts to try and motivate myself to leave, but it feels like I am reading scripts of someone else’s life. That all these things are not really happening to me.

I cant help but feel that it is not that bad, that I will be able to live with it. Besides, what would you rather choose: a life with an abuser who cares for you and loves you and would fight for you or a cheating, lying husband who feels nothing for you?

[Anon123]

I’m pleased you have a record on here of what’s been going on. It’s really easy to distance yourself and feel like you’re reading about someone else’s life or being able to blank it out, as that’s our bodies way of coping.
If a friend was in your situation or your child if you have one would you want their life like this -would you tell them to leave?
Just remember that abuse doesn’t stay at the same level -gradually it builds up more /gets worse without you noticing. Then it will be more difficult to leave as he will have gained even more control.
No one should have to live any time with worry and fear of what will happen. Please seriously consider how things have changed and when you will say that’s enough and leave -cos sadly I feel eventually you are going to have to -maybe start making small steps now of your move out plan.

[Anonymous]

Hi Anon

Thank you kindly for the good advise.

Sadly I know it is true, I am trying to work on it now, but seem that I am not getting very far.

Thank you for the support xox

[Confused123]

Hi HUn

Have u considered that u dont need either of them, they are both showing disrespect to u

[Anonymous]

Hi Confused

Thank you for that.

I am just struggling to see the concept of a good relationship. I have been surrounded by so many bad relationships, not only from my own experience, but from the people around me, that I can truly not see that you can get a good relationship. What is the use of being with a partner if you end up hurt at the end anyway?

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