My dad is abusive, what do I do?

[fika]

My dad has been emotionally abusive and physically violent since I was little. He hasn’t yet laid hands on me, but he has smashed / kicked / punched objects, walls etc plenty of times, and his rage episodes are terrifying. His behaviour has worsened recently. I don’t know if he’d ever hurt me, but I’m afraid he will.

I moved back in with my parents temporarily, but I actually can’t take it anymore. I’m waiting to start a new job so I don’t have income right now – should I go to a refuge? Can I go to one? I don’t feel I ‘deserve’ to be at one as much as others do.

I don’t know what to do or where to go, I just don’t feel I can be around him anymore. It’s making me unwell and insane.

[Lisa]

Hi Fika,

Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. What you described sounds really frightening- if you are feeling at risk and unsafe you have every right to go into a refuge.

Do reach out for further support where you can

Best Wishes

Lisa

[fika]

Thank you,  I wasn’t sure if refuge was an option when it’s a family member who is abusive

[Stargazing1]

What you are experiencing sounds horrendous.  No one should be having to deal with what you are experiencing.  Your safety is very important.  It sounds like a very scary place to be in .  A refuge sounds like a very good idea.  I am so sorry to hear this is occurring.  If you are worried for your safety it’s probably best to get out and seek a place of safety.  If you have family or friends.  Seek refuge if it’s possible to do so . Please keep safe .

[fika]

Thankyou 🙂 I’m trying to make some sort of plan to get myself out of there

[Stargazing1]

Your very welcome.  I really hope you can get out because you deserve so much better 💓.  I wish you all the luck in the world.  Please take care of yourself and keep safe 🙏.  Sending kind blessings your way.

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