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Hi
Sorry – I know I said wouldn’t post anymore.
After yesterday’s situation my son is so angry with me. Angry that I didn’t go, in the middle of the night , and pick his dad up. He is tired and upset and blaming me. I did offer to pick his dad up but he never replied. I am making him go to school – yes he is tired but I feel I musnt give in. I also have doctors appt and stuff which he shouldn’t know about. How do I cope, what should j do. I know the most important thing is to make him feel loved but if he keeps rejecting that and lashing out what do I do? I am worried i will appear weak and he will have even less respect for me. I do not want him to walk all over me like his dad has. Please give me some advice xz -
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Hey HUn
Sending u hug, just keep giving yoru child consitency, whatever goes on between u and your partner is the adult business, it old my son not to worry and that it was up to mummy and daddy to sort their problems out and that he is still lvoed, again say sorry your tired if your night was disturbed but u do stillhave to go to school and maybe give him early tea so he can rest early tonight and just hug him . Go to yoir appointment and focus on your health too
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I agree with Confused123. Excellent advice! Acknowledges and validates how your son is feeling emotionally: tired and angry but sets boundaries and consistency and points out appropriate behaviour while making sure your son does not develop guilty feelings as it’s not his responsibility to sort out you and his Dad. Parenting Gold Star!
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Thankyou ladies. Whilst he was a bit feisty when I picked him up, I kept everything the same as usual. I cooked his favourite tea and waited on him a bit ( made his squash etc, ) and we even played a little bit. He is fast asleep now, next to me albeit, but he said he loved me when we said our good nights. Xxxx
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hope things are better for you today, I get how you feel, I hate the roller coaster and often feel like I am in the car at the top hanging on waiting for the big drop. I have two children and am really worried about them, but try to be loving, kind and constant with them…..it’s hard and you are amazing, you are fantastic and his behaviour is no reflection on you whatsoever. it’s the opposite if anything, you are the strong brilliant one….he, he is the t****r, vile, nasty creature with no thought for anyone but himself just like mine is….me, I am a fu@king b***h apparently this morning because I said I thought he should help get kids ready rather than be in bed 🙂 you are not alone xxxxxx
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Aww bless your son Tuppance poor boy. I remember my teenage years being very difficult in addition to having an abusive father. I remember being very confused. Cross at my dad but still wanting to help him. Hormones wondering if i was going to turn out like my father or if all men were like him.
Honestly your son must be going through the wringer. Try to support him as much as you can. i remember my mother being there even though she used to get the verbal abuse to. She did her best. You can only do your best too.
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