Need to vent

[Broken123]

I’ve not been on here in a long time, I left my verbally and emotionally abusive husband (season removed by Moderator), then stupidly went back (season removed by Moderator)… obviously things didn’t change so I have left again (timeframe removed by Moderator) we are well and truly done now BUT I am so so angry…

We were together well over a decade for the last few years he’s been disabled and I’ve been his only carer…. It’s been a matter of weeks since I’ve left with the children and I’ve still been going to him daily and assisting with his care… he’s now informed me he’s been on a date but still expects me to go and do his care 🤯

I’m literally shaking with rage am I being unreasonable to think this is an absolute Micky take….. I don’t want him back under any circumstances but feel like he’s still trying to control my life and use me to suit him while he goes on the rebound!!!

[minimeerkat]

given the chance do you think it would soon include something like asking you to iron a shirt for him ready to wear on the next date!  bless your heart everything you are feeling & thinking is completely understandable – so i really hope a replacement carer can be sorted out asap x

[Broken123]

So this weekend he’s had her in our house over night, then now he’s asking me to cut his hair checked his skin and send him photographs of me 🙈 he’s absolutely dilluded,

 

I did kick off when he had another woman in the house as I’ve been gone for a few weeks, most of mine and my children’s belongings are still there and he palmed his day with the children off to spend it with her. He now thinks I’m hurting because I want him, and it’s the complete opposite I’m hurting because I gave years of my life to this man and he just moved on in our house and our house within weeks! I feel used and he’s literally rubbed my face straight in it 🙈

[BellaBella]

Hello Broken123,

You are clearly a caring and thoughtful person, you have done all of the things that a caring and thoughtful person would do.

There is a time when thoughtful and caring turns into something else and we start to sacrifice and compromise so much we actually hurt ourselves.

I believe that is part of what happens to us as a result of abuse, so much so that we are constantly trying to prove just how really, very good we are!

It’s time to stop now, be thoughtful and caring to yourself and your children.

You’ve done more than enough and you don’t need to do it anymore.

Take good care 😊

[Broken123]

Thank you x

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