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1st February 2025 at 10:41 pm #173859
Broken123
ParticipantI’ve not been on here in a long time, I left my verbally and emotionally abusive husband (season removed by Moderator), then stupidly went back (season removed by Moderator)… obviously things didn’t change so I have left again (timeframe removed by Moderator) we are well and truly done now BUT I am so so angry…
We were together well over a decade for the last few years he’s been disabled and I’ve been his only carer…. It’s been a matter of weeks since I’ve left with the children and I’ve still been going to him daily and assisting with his care… he’s now informed me he’s been on a date but still expects me to go and do his care 🤯
I’m literally shaking with rage am I being unreasonable to think this is an absolute Micky take….. I don’t want him back under any circumstances but feel like he’s still trying to control my life and use me to suit him while he goes on the rebound!!!
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2nd February 2025 at 4:05 pm #173871
minimeerkat
Participantgiven the chance do you think it would soon include something like asking you to iron a shirt for him ready to wear on the next date! bless your heart everything you are feeling & thinking is completely understandable – so i really hope a replacement carer can be sorted out asap x
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11th February 2025 at 9:34 pm #174065
Broken123
ParticipantSo this weekend he’s had her in our house over night, then now he’s asking me to cut his hair checked his skin and send him photographs of me 🙈 he’s absolutely dilluded,
I did kick off when he had another woman in the house as I’ve been gone for a few weeks, most of mine and my children’s belongings are still there and he palmed his day with the children off to spend it with her. He now thinks I’m hurting because I want him, and it’s the complete opposite I’m hurting because I gave years of my life to this man and he just moved on in our house and our house within weeks! I feel used and he’s literally rubbed my face straight in it 🙈
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3rd February 2025 at 8:36 pm #173885
BellaBella
ParticipantHello Broken123,
You are clearly a caring and thoughtful person, you have done all of the things that a caring and thoughtful person would do.
There is a time when thoughtful and caring turns into something else and we start to sacrifice and compromise so much we actually hurt ourselves.
I believe that is part of what happens to us as a result of abuse, so much so that we are constantly trying to prove just how really, very good we are!
It’s time to stop now, be thoughtful and caring to yourself and your children.
You’ve done more than enough and you don’t need to do it anymore.
Take good care 😊
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20th March 2025 at 12:52 pm #174766
Stargazing1
ParticipantOnce again I find myself on the other end of his verbal abuse. Getting shouted at over something that isn’t anything to do with me . I get the feeling that no one can do anything right in his eyes. Everyone that is discussed is doing something wrong . It’s very upsetting especially when my half of the family are being slated . This has been an issue for years though. Him thinking he’s never made a mistake. Him looking down on other people. It’s very hurtful. I don’t have the same feelings for him that I used to have years ago. My love for him is nil or very close too nil due to everything thar occurred over the years . Being accused of stuff I haven’t done. Living alone having my own place is looking like something I would like one day.
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20th March 2025 at 12:54 pm #174767
Stargazing1
ParticipantFeeling very upset by his bolshy attitude towards me and other people. He can also be very ignorant with members of my family too . That’s very hurtful too . I’m never ignorant to members of his family ever .
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20th March 2025 at 12:55 pm #174768
Stargazing1
ParticipantI do sometimes wish I’d never met this person. He definitely likes to domineer people
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20th March 2025 at 1:01 pm #174771
Stargazing1
ParticipantHis attitude towards me stinks .
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20th March 2025 at 1:44 pm #174772
Stargazing1
ParticipantOne minute he’s all aggressive and angry about everything going on around him the next thing he’s trying to be all nice . Jekyll and Hyde type person.
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22nd April 2025 at 11:49 am #175296
Stargazing1
ParticipantDon’t these people realise how hurtful thier words are . They say terrible things and then the next thing they act as if nothing has happened.
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22nd April 2025 at 11:50 am #175297
Stargazing1
ParticipantHe wanted me to do something I wasn’t comfortable with. I said no . He wasn’t happy that I said no . Then he started saying horrible things too me.
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22nd April 2025 at 1:05 pm #175298
Stargazing1
ParticipantPutting on a brave face isn’t easy
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28th April 2025 at 11:45 am #175387
Stargazing1
ParticipantCrying yourself too sleep at night because of how they presented themselves throughout the day . Making a person feel underminded .
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4th May 2025 at 9:27 am #175448
Stargazing1
ParticipantI didn’t want to be intamate with him . I felt tired. Got shouted at . He wasn’t happy with me at all .
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4th May 2025 at 9:28 am #175449
Stargazing1
ParticipantFeeling like I’m a rubbish person.
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4th May 2025 at 9:28 am #175450
Stargazing1
ParticipantThink he wants to kick me out .
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4th May 2025 at 5:51 pm #175464
Stargazing1
ParticipantThey shout at us for whatever reasons. Then somehow think it’s OK to act as if nothing happened. That can’t be right.
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4th May 2025 at 7:46 pm #175466
Stargazing1
ParticipantNo apology whatsoever.
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6th May 2025 at 6:16 pm #175512
Stargazing1
ParticipantTalked some things over with Samaritans
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7th May 2025 at 9:57 pm #175529
Stargazing1
ParticipantI don’t appreciate put downs
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17th May 2025 at 4:36 pm #175617
Stargazing1
ParticipantI’ll be glad when he’s asleep
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17th May 2025 at 5:10 pm #175619
Stargazing1
ParticipantThere won’t be any apology . Fighting back the tears
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25th May 2025 at 7:24 pm #175676
Stargazing1
ParticipantBeen a decent day because (detail removed by Moderator). Only trouble is that special time never lasts long enough. Try discussing some things slightly with others but no one will have a bad word said about them. I know for sure the sun doesn’t shine out of this person.
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25th May 2025 at 10:27 pm #175682
Stargazing1
ParticipantSo wished my life was different
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25th May 2025 at 10:45 pm #175683
Stargazing1
ParticipantDetest Bank Holiday weekends .
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1st June 2025 at 8:33 pm #175797
Stargazing1
ParticipantWhen it’s a calm period I do question myself if I’ve got this all wrong.
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15th June 2025 at 8:46 pm #175996
Stargazing1
ParticipantNo I haven’t got it wrong.
Another time where he has a go because I didn’t want to be intamate.
Weird thing was he was falling asleep.
Telling me i should leave.
Can’t do anything right.
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15th June 2025 at 9:46 pm #175997
Stargazing1
ParticipantI do get the impression that my kids think I’m being stupid.
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21st June 2025 at 3:56 pm #176075
Stargazing1
ParticipantSo upset today 😞
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24th June 2025 at 11:03 am #176141
Stargazing1
ParticipantActing normal like nothing happened is very draining
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28th June 2025 at 5:03 pm #176215
Stargazing1
ParticipantMy head feels so messy
Been out for a while
Back home
Feeling really down
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28th June 2025 at 9:53 pm #176220
Stargazing1
ParticipantWell I have realised one thing
One rule for him
One rule for me
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29th June 2025 at 12:05 pm #176224
Stargazing1
ParticipantBeing told my kids think I’m pathetic has hurt me real bad
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1st July 2025 at 8:42 pm #176263
Stargazing1
ParticipantCaring for them when they are not well such hard work
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