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    • #173859
      Broken123
      Participant

      I’ve not been on here in a long time, I left my verbally and emotionally abusive husband (season removed by Moderator), then stupidly went back (season removed by Moderator)… obviously things didn’t change so I have left again (timeframe removed by Moderator) we are well and truly done now BUT I am so so angry…

      We were together well over a decade for the last few years he’s been disabled and I’ve been his only carer…. It’s been a matter of weeks since I’ve left with the children and I’ve still been going to him daily and assisting with his care… he’s now informed me he’s been on a date but still expects me to go and do his care 🤯

      I’m literally shaking with rage am I being unreasonable to think this is an absolute Micky take….. I don’t want him back under any circumstances but feel like he’s still trying to control my life and use me to suit him while he goes on the rebound!!!

    • #173871
      minimeerkat
      Participant

      given the chance do you think it would soon include something like asking you to iron a shirt for him ready to wear on the next date!  bless your heart everything you are feeling & thinking is completely understandable – so i really hope a replacement carer can be sorted out asap x

      • #174065
        Broken123
        Participant

        So this weekend he’s had her in our house over night, then now he’s asking me to cut his hair checked his skin and send him photographs of me 🙈 he’s absolutely dilluded,

         

        I did kick off when he had another woman in the house as I’ve been gone for a few weeks, most of mine and my children’s belongings are still there and he palmed his day with the children off to spend it with her. He now thinks I’m hurting because I want him, and it’s the complete opposite I’m hurting because I gave years of my life to this man and he just moved on in our house and our house within weeks! I feel used and he’s literally rubbed my face straight in it 🙈

    • #173885
      BellaBella
      Participant

      Hello Broken123,

      You are clearly a caring and thoughtful person, you have done all of the things that a caring and thoughtful person would do.

      There is a time when thoughtful and caring turns into something else and we start to sacrifice and compromise so much we actually hurt ourselves.

      I believe that is part of what happens to us as a result of abuse, so much so that we are constantly trying to prove just how really, very good we are!

      It’s time to stop now, be thoughtful and caring to yourself and your children.

      You’ve done more than enough and you don’t need to do it anymore.

      Take good care 😊

    • #174766
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Once again I find myself on the other end of his verbal abuse.  Getting shouted at over something that isn’t anything to do with me .  I get the feeling that no one can do anything right in his eyes.  Everyone that is discussed is doing something wrong . It’s very upsetting especially when my half of the family are being slated . This has been an issue for years though.  Him thinking he’s never made a mistake.  Him looking down on other people.  It’s very hurtful.  I don’t have the same feelings for him that I used to have years ago.  My love for him is nil or very close too nil due to everything thar occurred over the years . Being accused of stuff I haven’t done.   Living alone having my own place is looking like something I would like one day.

    • #174767
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Feeling very upset by his bolshy attitude towards me and other people.    He can also be very ignorant with members of my family too . That’s very hurtful too . I’m never ignorant to members of his family ever .

    • #174768
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      I do sometimes wish I’d never met this person.  He definitely likes to domineer people

    • #174771
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      His attitude towards me stinks .

    • #174772
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      One minute he’s all aggressive and angry about everything going on around him    the next thing he’s trying to be all nice .   Jekyll and Hyde type person.

    • #175296
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Don’t these people realise how hurtful thier words are .  They say terrible things and then the next thing they act as if nothing has happened.

    • #175297
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      He wanted me to do something I wasn’t comfortable with.  I said no . He wasn’t happy that I said no . Then he started saying horrible things too me.

    • #175298
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Putting on a brave face isn’t easy

    • #175387
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Crying yourself too sleep at night because of how they presented themselves throughout the day . Making a person feel underminded .

    • #175448
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      I didn’t want to be intamate with him .  I felt tired.  Got shouted at . He wasn’t happy with me at all .

    • #175449
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Feeling like I’m a rubbish person.

    • #175450
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Think he wants to kick me out .

    • #175464
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      They shout at us for whatever reasons.  Then  somehow think it’s OK to act as if nothing happened. That can’t be right.

    • #175466
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      No apology whatsoever.

    • #175512
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Talked some things over with Samaritans

    • #175529
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      I don’t appreciate put downs

    • #175617
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      I’ll be glad when he’s asleep

    • #175619
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      There won’t be any apology . Fighting back the tears

    • #175676
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Been a decent day because (detail removed by Moderator).    Only trouble is that special time never lasts long enough.           Try discussing some things slightly with others but no one will have a bad word said about them.     I know for sure the sun doesn’t shine out of this person.

    • #175682
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      So wished my life was different

    • #175683
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Detest Bank Holiday weekends .

    • #175797
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      When it’s a calm period I do question myself if I’ve got this all wrong.

    • #175996
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      No I haven’t got it wrong.

      Another time where he has a go because I didn’t want to be intamate.

      Weird thing was he was falling asleep.

      Telling me i should leave.

      Can’t do anything right.

    • #175997
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      I do get the impression that my kids think I’m being stupid.

    • #176075
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      So upset today 😞

    • #176141
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Acting normal like nothing happened is very draining

    • #176215
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      My head feels so messy

      Been out for a while

      Back home

      Feeling really down

    • #176220
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Well I have realised one thing

      One rule for him

      One rule for me

       

    • #176224
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Being told my kids think I’m pathetic has hurt me real bad

    • #176263
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Caring for them when they are not well such hard work

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