- This topic has 39 replies, 5 voices, and was last updated 1 week, 5 days ago by
.
-
Posts
-
-
I’ve not been on here in a long time, I left my verbally and emotionally abusive husband (season removed by Moderator), then stupidly went back (season removed by Moderator)… obviously things didn’t change so I have left again (timeframe removed by Moderator) we are well and truly done now BUT I am so so angry…
We were together well over a decade for the last few years he’s been disabled and I’ve been his only carer…. It’s been a matter of weeks since I’ve left with the children and I’ve still been going to him daily and assisting with his care… he’s now informed me he’s been on a date but still expects me to go and do his care 🤯
I’m literally shaking with rage am I being unreasonable to think this is an absolute Micky take….. I don’t want him back under any circumstances but feel like he’s still trying to control my life and use me to suit him while he goes on the rebound!!!
-
given the chance do you think it would soon include something like asking you to iron a shirt for him ready to wear on the next date! bless your heart everything you are feeling & thinking is completely understandable – so i really hope a replacement carer can be sorted out asap x
-
So this weekend he’s had her in our house over night, then now he’s asking me to cut his hair checked his skin and send him photographs of me 🙈 he’s absolutely dilluded,
I did kick off when he had another woman in the house as I’ve been gone for a few weeks, most of mine and my children’s belongings are still there and he palmed his day with the children off to spend it with her. He now thinks I’m hurting because I want him, and it’s the complete opposite I’m hurting because I gave years of my life to this man and he just moved on in our house and our house within weeks! I feel used and he’s literally rubbed my face straight in it 🙈
-
-
Hello Broken123,
You are clearly a caring and thoughtful person, you have done all of the things that a caring and thoughtful person would do.
There is a time when thoughtful and caring turns into something else and we start to sacrifice and compromise so much we actually hurt ourselves.
I believe that is part of what happens to us as a result of abuse, so much so that we are constantly trying to prove just how really, very good we are!
It’s time to stop now, be thoughtful and caring to yourself and your children.
You’ve done more than enough and you don’t need to do it anymore.
Take good care 😊
-
-
Once again I find myself on the other end of his verbal abuse. Getting shouted at over something that isn’t anything to do with me . I get the feeling that no one can do anything right in his eyes. Everyone that is discussed is doing something wrong . It’s very upsetting especially when my half of the family are being slated . This has been an issue for years though. Him thinking he’s never made a mistake. Him looking down on other people. It’s very hurtful. I don’t have the same feelings for him that I used to have years ago. My love for him is nil or very close too nil due to everything thar occurred over the years . Being accused of stuff I haven’t done. Living alone having my own place is looking like something I would like one day.
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
Oh my god that is actually ridiculous. The audacity of these men. He sounds a lot like my abusive ex. I cared for him for years and years and years in his lowest points. He treated me badly throughout and was just evil. It makes you wonder how they sleep at night doing such stupid awful things that hurts others. Back when I was under my ex’s control, he had left me because he thought someone else was better than me then had the cheek to ask for money for a flight to meet this girl. Honestly and I still took him back after!!! And he still left me again in the future only to come back again
I know this sounds cliche and is definitely easier said than done but you just need to cut contact. Even (timeframe removed by Moderator) ago if you had told me I was almost no contact with my ex and about to be free id have a breakdown and tell you that’s not possible and I can’t live without him. I’d tell you the thought of having to tell people I’m no longer with him makes me feel so sad and sick. Fast forwards to now I can’t wait to to fully have no need to have contact with him and now it makes me feel sick when people think I’m still with him. Your ex knows what he is doing he is not stupid but he likes having you there to do everything for him and he knows you are a good person who is easy to manipulate. Cut that man off let him suffer the consequences you are an absolute queen who doesn’t need that pathetic excuse of a man!!!! Your new life can start once that man is gone. Always here if you need someone. I’ve been so alone in all this c**p and it’s a lot when you suddenly realise stuff and realise you are being abused. It’s been hard to process so I just want you to know you aren’t alone and I see you x
-
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
