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So yesterday I picked up the keys for my very first place for me & my daughter! I’m super excited but super scared. It’s not been long since I left him & he went to prison so everything is all still very raw. He always told me I would never be able to live on my own, how I wouldn’t cope and I have no concept of money and totally beat me down about it. He made me feel stupid and totally dependent on him and my mum so now I am super anxious about leaving my mum and moving in because what if he was right? Everything he said is going round and round in my head I can actually hear his voice it’s always weighing me down.
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You can raise a child – so you can run a home; expect you did most of this when you were living with him didn’t you? This is his voice echoing here – try to ignore it. It’s going to be great – you’re own place just the two of you! New beginings and an abuse free life. If your mum has supported you in the past when you’ve needed help this isn’t going to change now is it, you still have this safety net to call on when you need, only you can build and shape more support now and get things how you’d really like them to be x
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Fizzylem we both pulled our weight in all honesty more him than me but a lot of the time he would complain at the way I would do things even the slightest thing like folding the towels or washing a plate! I could never win with him most days. I guess raising a baby single handedly is much harder whilst dealing with trauma, studying and everything else in between. There’s a lot to organise and think about right now I just need to try my best not to get too stressed with it! Thank you both, I know I need to ignore his voice inside my head and keep telling myself over and over that I can do this until I actually believe it x
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Hey, raising a child I reckon is infinitely more difficult than running a home… ! I haven’t had children but I can only imagine how tricky it is. It’ll be a breeze for you. You have your mum (and us) to ask anything you’re struggling with, but please try & forget his negativity and enjoy your new life with your child! 🍾💐 xx
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