New car

[Iwantmeback]

My daughter’s got a new car. Im happy for her, but i know Its going to set him off. How can she afford that, bet your dads paying for it…when are you going to wake up that she’s taking him for all hes got. Hes convinced my dads giving her money out of inheritance. Tbh i dont give a s..t. Ive learned a long time ago what my dads like. I know he’ll be guarantor, shes earning so whats the problem. My problem is how do i deal with what’s coming , getting stressed at the stupidity of it all

[Falling Skys]

Hi

If your daughter has a new car she an adult and its nothing to do with either of you how it was financed.

Of course he will use it as a way to get to you, try not to let it get to you.

Can you tell him to discus it with his daughter and step away from his control.

Good luck

FS x

[Iwantmeback]

Hi there, sorry for mixup shes my daughter not his. Its really just another way fir him to try and ostracize me from my family. He gets so wound up esp when he thinks im being ” done out of my inheritance.” Im with you on shes an adult and can do what she wants. I think its more about him not knowing more than anything else 3lse.

[Falling Skys]

Hi

Are you still with him? If so its more about him not getting your inheritance.

Mine was always making thing hard for me with my family and friends.

Hugs

FS x

[Twisted Sister]

Dear Iwantmeback

It’s horrible and exhausting living under that fear and dread of it all kicking off again.

What’s your dad’s relationship like with him? Can he put him in his place, that way you and your daughter don’t get caught up in it?

Are you getting any support at the moment to help you with this?

I hope all stays quiet, (but how exciting for your daughter!!!)

Warmest wishes ts

[Iwantmeback]

Hi FS, yes still with him, AND yip its about him protecting my(his) inheritance.
Hi TS, my dad could never put him in his place, he buries his head in the sand at confrontation (guess i learned that from him, though i do push back when ive taken enough,).no support at the moment, still working up to it. Taking THAT step makes it real and out of my control(even though i know WA wouldnt do anything to jeopardise me or give me ultimatum). The support ive had here is overwhelming at times. Its so sad we have to have forums and that noone who doesnt live with abuse really understands. Ive had the, “but we argue wll the time”. But they dont feel scared to the pit of their stomachs, id leave if he ever hit me”, as would anyone, but theyve not had their confidence chipped away, their view of reality so blurred you question if what hes said is meant to be banter or a threat.
Wow, ive just realised every time we share its like a river,another piece of info adds to our story,like a wee tributary latching on to the bigger river. God help me when ive become an ocean😂😂

Take care everyone, heres to another day

IWMB 💕💕

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