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[meadow123]

Hi, I’ve just managed to get my abuser to leave my house finally after a really bad weekend, I’m just wondering if anyone suffers from constant illnesses as since the abuse got worse I’ve been ill every week as I dont have chance to rest, I have a daughter who is (detail removed by Moderator) and my ex never helped me and i have no support around. just having a bad day from having sickness bug all weekend and being on my with my little one. my daughter is I’ll today and I feel like my heads going explode and wondering how things got so bad. I will go into detail more another time.

[Hereforhelp]

Hey Meadow123, firstly well done for getting your abuser away from you and your child, you are very brave for doing that.
I remember having to deal with my 2 babies (months between them in ages, my now ex left me to it until i was taken into hospital, i cried when i got in my hospital bed, tears of relief as i was at breaking point) and all of us having a sickness bug, it was a conveyer belt of nappy changes with a bowl for me to vomit in as I carried on.

It is incredly hard to do, let alone whilst dealing with all the emotions you will have come up since your abuser has now gone. In my opinion yes it does affect your physical health, being abused, surviving the abuse whether physical, mental or both… it does affect your body.
Can you speak to your GP? Ring WA for advice as they are there to help you through this. They may know of ways to help you get some respite, I don’t know but hopefully someone on here will.

I want to send you a massive hug, keep posting ❤

[Teaandcats]

Hi Meadow123, and welcome.
I have had illness after illness for months. I had a cold which seemed to be continuous for 3 months last summer and since have just been unwell most of the time. Generally I’ve been a healthy person for most of my life – rarely had colds or seasonal illnesses until the past few years, so have put my poorliness down to stress and no real recovery time due to having children and recently recognising that my ex is abusive… I used to have these fantasies/daydreams that I was hit by a bus and broke my leg, and needed to stay in hospital for a few nights for a “break”, so I really hear what you’re saying about having no support.
There are lots of ladies here with a lot of knowledge – I hope you find the help and support you need.

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