New here and need help

[Twitcher]

Hello ladies, I’ve finally joined this amazing forum and any help would be much appreciated. My husband of many years finally destroyed me mentally (detail removed by moderator). After speaking to a counsellor for anxiety it all came flooding out, the soul destroying physical and mental abuse I had hidden from everyone for all these years. Fast forward a few months and with help from a DA counsellor and Refuge I’m finally divorcing him but we are still living together. Today I feel so low and alone, i don’t have friends due to being isolated over the years and I’ve even been thinking about calling the divorce off as I will be even lonelier. Please could you let me know how to continue to stay strong through this x

[Hereforhelp]

Hi, oh that’s tough when you are still living together .. is there any way he could go? It took me some attempts but eventually got my abusive husband to leave our jointly owned home…
I was married decades, we had planned our retirement and I was so lonely… fast forward well over a year and I habe joined clubs and met new friends, Freedom Programme and a follow up course also helped me along this road od recovery..
Please don’t go back because of loneliness, I bet you have been lonely a long time because of his abuse, isolation… life is definitely better without abuse, it is tough, we are all here for you (there are a lot of women still living with their abusive ex’s for lots of reasons, i am sure they will be along to help you on this forum.

Big hugs HFH ❤️

[Twitcher]

Hi Hereforhelp,

Please see my reply below, I haven’t quite got the hang of using the forum yet x

[Twitcher]

Hi Hereforhelp,

Thank you so much for your reply, I have asked him on many occasions to leave but get the answer why should he when he pays the bills. Out of the blue my mental strength has diminished the last couple of days and I would hate to let him get me to the state I was last year. (detail removed by moderator) and it seems like an endless dark hole. It made me feel more positive to read how you are now and hoping that my nightmare will not be for much longer, feeling so scared and I hope all you lovely ladies will help me through xx

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