No One Believes Me

[NewLife2021]

My husband constantly lies and lies and the whole community believes him. I went to (detail removed by moderator) – I had an official diagnosis of stress and designated high MARAC. None of this was mentioned in the judgement and he claimed that he had the children on a 50:50 basis was untrue but (detail removed by moderator). He accused me of the most awful crimes after I took ill over a weekend in the pandemic and everyone took his side. I was awarded a court order for 50:50 (detail removed by moderator) according to his work shifts which set me up for failure and more stress. He stayed in the family home and I moved constantly being made homeless several times. He paid a sollicitor (usually used by Woman’s Aid) to write a letter saying the children are not returning when I was (detail removed by moderator). The children must have been given new phone and I have zero contact. Rumours in the community are that (detail removed by moderator) (untrue). Now all my child’s parents are not communicating with me. My family have cut off support and everyone seems to want to go back before the pandemic (and high MARAC) to a time where the most awful situation happened to me and I was lucky to survive. Now I am left with nothing and struggling in my full time job and homelessness. I tried so hard to escape and noone supported me. I have folders and folders of evidence and noone will help. No one wants the truth. I am pressured to remain silent. I feel like a refugee in my own country and I am disgusted that he can just lie without immunity. Noone even listens to my side or my evidence including my own mother who is spreading lies about my mental health after I cried about my children. He is going to (detail removed by moderator) now – goodness knows what he has said to my kids and strip me completely financially – he will be soon inheriting a (detail removed by moderator). Is this the country I was born into? I feel like I am living in a foreign land. I am in total disbelief. (detail removed by moderator)

[Lisa]

Hi NewLife2021,

Thank you for sharing with us. I am sorry to hear of everything you have been through, it sounds really distressing for you. It is understandable you feel let down. You might want to explore support from the Family Rights Group, they are a charity who advises about rights and options when social services or courts make decisions about children. You can find their information here.

If you haven’t already then you might also want to contact your local domestic abuse service. They can often offer ongoing emotional and practical support. You can find details of your local service here.

I hope posting on the forum has helped.

Best wishes,

Lisa

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