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[cupcakes]

Hi I’ve not been on here for months as I’m too scared to put any information but I need help I need to speak to someone and I don’t know how. Womens aid doesn’t offer anything in my local area that I can attend I’m on a waiting list for counciling which is private my family great support but I feel bad for putting on them so much… Some days I feel like I am going crazy and my world isn’t worth living in fear of him or what he will do next. I left (detail removed by moderator) everyone said I was so brave I’ve done the hardest bit but actually that was easy compared to living like this…

[maddog]

You are not alone. I live in a dead zone between counties. I’ve had my 2nd appt with WA cancelled and b****y hell it’s lonely. Well done you for getting out. Have you already spoken to the police and your gp about your fears? Please speak to them again and again and again. You are not going crazy, but living in fear you can run the very real risk of depression. Your gp should be able to at least provide somewhere safe to talk. Lots of ((((((hugs))))))). Have you sought an injunction? I’m sure you’ve done all the right things and here I am teaching granny to suck eggs.
I have had my antidepressant dosage tripled. It’s hard to know if I am able to feel anything at all any more!

[KIP.]

The Samaritans. Your GP. Rape Crisis if appropriate have a helpline. Women’s Aid have a helpline. There may be local free counselling that WA can point you to. Feel free to personal message me anytime you want to offload. I’m happy to help if I can x in the early days my PTSD made me tell anyone that would listen. Even the lady behind the till in Marks! It’s part of the healing process. Write it all down in a journal just to get it out your head onto paper x

[Lisa]

Hi Cupcakes,

I am so sorry to read that you are feeling so frightened and overwhelmed. Please do phone the helpline if ever you need to talk and they will happily have a look to see if there is other support available in the area that you are in. The Women’s Aid website might show other options too in the ‘find help locally’ section. Lots of people find the online Freedom Program very helpful too.

Please be kind to yourself. How you are feeling is totally normal and very understandable. You were in an abusive relationship for a long time and it can take a long time to adapt and recover. We are all here for you.

Best wishes,

Lisa
Forum Moderator

[cupcakes]

Thank you all I might look at the online freedom programme. WA have looked at ever option locally but with work and the children I can’t get to any of it. I am scared to talk to anyone as I am being threatened so my anxiety is so high. I am scared to go to the local shops and worry that his watching my every move. I hate living like this I just want to get on with my life and I feel I can’t

[KIP.]

Don’t be hard on yourself. Recovery takes time. I used to be scared and now I just get on with it. Anxiety always gets worse when we have to deal with their nonsense. It took me a long time not to fear him. Don’t get me wrong, I would never be alone with him, he’s dangerous but the fear doesn’t live with me the way it used to.

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