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Hi, all. Getting desperate. I have now run out of money to fight and having to handle the divorce finances myself, whilst he uses the family savings to fund his side. I have less than (removed by moderator) before the court order expires and he can walk back into the family home – as abuse was against my child as well as me, I have no choice but to make sure we are not here. We will be back to living out of our car, just like last year when we fled. Council are useless. They’ve taken over a year to get us on the list because of a mistake by an unpleasant employee. We will be homeless just a few days before (removed by moderator), what a start for the poor child! All our possessions will have to be left here for him to enjoy, leaving us with nothing. The law is so unfair and actually helps these abusers.
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Have you rang rights for women? They give free legal advice and could perhaps help you with extending the civil order or get an exclusion order which as far as I know is valid until the court sorts ownership. keeping him out the home? Contact the helpline number on here and your local women’s aid. You can use the fact that your child’s education will be affected when appealing to the court? If you haven’t already, ring Rights for Women.
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I will ring rights for women, thanks. The problem is that the order runs out when finances are agreed in court (removed by moderator) but I won’t have the settlement to start over until house sold. I hope rights for women have the answer. We can’t even go into a refuge because I have two other children by him, one of which is a gentle young adult male, so not allowed into a refuge. Hence, us living out of a car last year. Thanks for reply, Kip.
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Well, girls. Sorted finances yesterday, (detail removed by Moderator) He now has the right to walk back in. Had a terrible night’s sleep last night – worried what he will do next. I am on a few housing lists but no luck so far. I’m back to feeling constantly frightened. Sad to say my son told me he feels the same way (he was subject to his father’s abuse too, which led to us going on the run when I found out). Can’t private rent as house not sold to provide finance yet. Wish us luck.
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Keep trying rights for women and ask about a non molestation order or exclusion order. Change the locks in the meantime. Ring the helpline number on here too. They may have some ideas for you. I know how frightening this is. I didnt last long before (detail removed by Moderator). These men are just unpredictable.
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Thanks, Kip. We are still in house, frightened about whether he will come in. Phoned agencies but because, on paper (can’t prove he comes into house or that he vandalises car), he has behaved, it is harder to get court orders. Also, no money for solicitors and can’t get legal aid. Just hoping we are ok for the few weeks it will take to get another home. At least housing agencies are actually trying to find us somewhere now. Council are rubbish, though, as I don’t want him to know where we live, which narrows down the areas they can offer us.
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