Normal behaviours?

[Umberella]

Hi just looking for advice if anyone has been in this sort of situation before….

I’m still going through the motions of a separation from my husband but he seems to be doing and saying anything he can think of to get me to stay.

He has been emotionally and often times physically abusive our whole relationship but because I wasn’t giving in to him this time he declared that he had been suffering with mental health problems.

I’m aware this might be a manipulation tactic but would someone who is emotionally abusive go as far as to go see a Dr and agree to a prescription for anti-depressants if he really didn’t need them.

It has caused all kinds of confusion for me and made me feel awful about my decision to leave him. (He hasn’t actually took any tablets yet)

Tia. X

[Bambe]

Hi umbrella!

My husband has had anti depressant tables prescribed from the Dr over (removed by moderator) now. He hasn’t yet taken a tablet. He said last year he was suicidal and went as far as making a video saying goodbye to our children and left me a letter blaming me for his mental health saying I had changed since having children and he missed his ‘best friend’ – I basically started to stand up for myself since having children as I want to set a better example for them. And all the attention is no longer on him.

It then hadn’t been spoken off until (removed by moderator) when he told me he was suicidal (removed by moderator) but still hasn’t took any tablets. He says that if we’re ok he knows he’ll be ok. This conversation came up (removed by moderator) after I told him I wanted to divorce.

I’ve then told him we don’t have to make a decision just yet as I was worried I would set him off and don’t want him to do anything to harm himself. Since that conversation he seems fine. You would never know any different. I believe it was a tactic to keep me in his control which has happened.

Hope this helps!!

Xx

T

[gettingtired]

My ex took anti-depressants on and off for a number of years but his behaviour never changed and he continued to blame everyone else in the world for everything. He had therapy a couple of times but it was always the counsellor’s fault if he didn’t find it helpful. I think they can and will go to all kinds of levels to continue their manipulations and keep themselves as the ‘victim’. My ex also threatened myself, his family, my family and the police with suicide over the years. Trust your gut instinct which is obviously telling you it’s all a big manipulation to keep you feeling sorry for him! x

[Umberella]

Yeh my husband has threatened suicide a couple of times also… im starting to see the patterns of his behaviour so clearly now. He has started to contact my family to apologise for the way he has treat me over the years which I found a little strange..

I’m fascinated by their behaviours… how they all seem to do the exact same things as each other but swear blind it’s going to be different and they really are going to change.

I hope you don’t mind me asking gettingtired, but how long have you been seperated for? And what is your relationship like now?

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