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It’s mid December and we’ve got no decorations up, thanks to his financial abuse I’m struggling to get any gifts or festive food. As I’ve told him I want out, me and the kids hide upstairs most evenings and with another weekend looming I’m feeling really blue today. I’ve got Santa booked but don’t want to tell him as he’ll ruin it somehow or if I take children without him I’ll face wrath. Here’s hoping for a better one next year, and getting through this one without breaking. Anyone else having a rough time this season? xx
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Me!!! I am really not feeling it either. Its awful and I really just want to hibernate until its over. I look at the measly pile of gifts I have bought the kids…. then compare to the huge stash of expensive goodies he has bought them. I just feel sick.
I will cook Christmas dinner, do pressies with the kids, then shut myself back in my room for the rest of the day. Then,2 weeks of him round the house as off work over the festive period. Literally no idea what to do. The kids want to spend their time with him as he does (detail removed by moderator) stuff with them, whereas I am poor and cannot afford anything.
I keep telling myself next Christmas will be so much better, but will it really. I feel my kids hate me!!! -
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Same but then I think Christmas is a major childhood memory I’ve got to try. If he wasn’t in the house I could bake with the kids, watch Christmas movies, do cheap but memorable stuff, but it’s just awful day in day out, he’s either drunk, moody or fake nice. It doesn’t help that every tv program, radio station and social media site is happy families, you can’t help but compare. Hang in there x
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Aww I really feel for you as it must be so difficult having to try to make it special for the children despite how you’re feeling.
Yes it’s hard seeing others enjoying the festive season whilst feeling so low yourself 🙁
I know, the mood swings/drinking are unbearable, I never know what I’m coming home to. Just really trying to make myself feel justified to leave him in the new year if I’m not out before. Take care and enjoy the moments you can get with the children without him there xx
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the thought of christmas is making me cry right now. Its going on for others but not me. No decs, no presents, not even got cards to give. received a card today and awkwardly don’t know what to even do with it 🙁
I’m further down the line though, but still battling with trying to get back on my feet.
As for the myth of happy families on tv shows and radio, they might not be in abusive families, but then again noone really knows what goes on behind closed doors and how much is put on for the occasion/tv/radio.
I mean, how many have you spoken to about your relationship? Generally its those things that get hidden the best. I didn’t tell anyone, I may have asked a few questions of people, but I never said the stuff that went on, and was also lost in it, so that also takes your voice away to talk about it to others.
Enjoy anything you can of the good relationships is all I can say.
As for the Disney Dads, children love their mothers too, even if they don’t forever give gifts, but for the times they need them, showing interest and concern when its needed, they work out who accepts them for who they are and tries to understand them for themselves, and who just does disney and doesn’t care about the rest. You’re the only mother they have, or will ever have.
Sending you wishes for staying safe over christmas when they are home on holiday, and to be ready to get out if things turn bad.
warmest wishes (christmas or not) to you all x
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