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Crazy making.
He accuses me of seeing other people
But I’m the one that accused him. Lots of times.
He just wants to work things out …but I refuse to talk and I’m confrontational and unreasonable…all the while I can’t get a word in edgewise without being shouted over, and if I do say how I feel it’s just invalidated by him saying one way or another that I’m wrong…but I’m too good at words for HIM and I tie him in knots…and so on.
Refuse to engage I’m punishing him with the silent treatment
Defeated
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Yes I felt like I could never win. No matter what I did I’d been set up to fail.
Since I left the only contact has been by email because we do still have some things we need to sort out, and I can see from his emails that it is a lose-lose situation with him. Sometimes I’ve tried to sort out a simple problem and watched as he’s manipulated and muddled it so that a solution is avoided, and I’ve become embroiled in some endless issue about something else. He genuinely isn’t interested in finding solutions only more arguments.
I haven’t found any way to win in this situation. Except not to engage at all.
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