Hello Door mouse
Thats called gaslighting.
What you feel is real. If anyone tells you that you are not feeling that but are just being ‘needy’, that’s gaslighting and abusive. If someone can’t accept what you say, then they are not for you, they are not a good match, not your friend, and you deserve better.
Value yourself, and steer clear of those who can’t have basic respect for you and acceptance of your feelings. You are worthy of these basics, and so much more.
warmest wishes
ts