Partner is overly nice

[bluebird28]

I am separated (living in same house but separated, no choice atm)  its hard doing the right thing, now partner has been so overly nice and keeps taking child out and being nice,(have another but partner doesn`t seem interested as much in other child maybe cos child is older)  whereas partner would not normally bother , partner had argument with child and said never taking child out again , next day finished work early came home and said was picking child up from school (rare until recently)  talking child out as child was upset night before ( partner had made child upset) child is upset by partner speaking in way they do, its enough to deal with anyway right now, why can they not just have been nice all along.

dont worry im not fooled though! i`m standing my ground, left too many times only to go back, not this time though.

Partner being so nice its odd, (dont get me wrong partner can be nice in the past as well as making me walk on eggshells) partner says darling, sweetheart and all the nice terms, i think partner is worried about me speaking up, even now is trying to say will help me get  a new home for me and the kids but i dont want partner doing this, partner is all the bad things that i have read here and elsewhere, i was dreading today in case partner got my flowers or something (still am) cos it wont change things for me, i have had so much going on in my head it feels overwhelming but just being able to type here is helping, sorry but also thanks for reading , i`m getting help , we should be able to live our lives our way, hugs people

[NotYourMaid]

Hi. I think you wrote in a post of mine, when I was stressed about my husband being nice.

I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s just so confusing when they’re nice, especially if it’s not like love bombing, and more about practical things. And then it hurts, because it’s not actually them being nice, and you never know how long it will actually last. Because the nice-ness doesn’t last. It comes crashing down painfully… yours sounds worse, because it’s also happening to your children.

Anyway, it sounds like you are in the process of escaping from your partner. I wish you a safe and healthy escape!

[bluebird28]

Thanks, he does show some other side of him, like when child was hard work the other day , he is like Jekyll and Hyde two sides, but we will be strong and get through this we are worth more, smile, chin up and lets not these ppl ruin us x

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