Paying for the divorce

[Goldengirl]

Hi, girls. I’m after a miracle answer. Does anyone have any ideas as to how to pay for a divorce? After years of physical, mental, financial and sexual abuse, my husband started on my child and so we ran. I went to court to get him out of house, so we could have somewhere to live. After many useless court cases, where he attempted and failed to get access to our child, I am now in debt. We will sell the house and I will go into council housing. My problem is that I can’t afford a divorce. I need a solicitor, as he has a good one and I need money to start again. I can’t get legal aid, I’ve checked. Anyone got any good ideas? I am now having little sleep and it’s affecting my health. I know we are lucky to get out and be safe but I want to get my fair share and not be abused further by the legal system. I don’t have the strength to fight it on my own and will give in to him over our assets, without legal help. Any ideas?

[KIP.]

Most solicitors offer half hour free consultations. They may take their fee from your assets once they’re sold? I know how you feel. I’m going through the same. Impossible to negotiate with an abuser. When I wouldn’t agree to his absurd offer, he’s taken me through the courts. Expensive for him too but he thinks he can manipulate the system as easily as he manipulated me. Do you have family that can help you out meantime? Have you spoken to Rights for Women. They offer free legal advice. Your local women’s aid or the helpline on here may have ideas.

[Serenity]

Hi Golden Girl,

Are you sure that you can’t get legal aid? I was told I wasn’t entitled to it, but in the final instance I was told I was. My solicitor had to apply a few times.

Where there’s been domestic abuse, you’re often entitled to legal aid.

I would echo KIP in saying that it’s worth ringing up a couple of solicitors who offer half an hour free advice, to ask them about this. I went to two or three different ones. I am so glad I did.

Though I was happy with my solicitor overall, I did receive some valuable advice from these other solicitors that my own solicitor wasn’t up to date with.

I need to repay my court fees when I sell my house ( a ‘charge’ has been put on my house).

Good luck. If you don’t get help knocking on one door, it’s always worth knocking on another x

[Ayanna]

Actually, for the divorce you only need minimal legal assistance, just to get the wording of the application right. That is it. If you have property a solicitor is needed for the financial order, but not necessarily.

If you are good with studying, you can research the divorce, ask Rights of Women, check out the government website, go on search engines, read up in legal books in the library, …

[unicornsarelovely]

Hi I’m in a similar situation. I have a solicitor and she wanted my GP to write a letter so I can get legal aid problem is my GP won’t do the letter as it states domestic violence but emotional abuse isn’t violence. I can’t afford solicitors fees as I’ve been on a low income since my ex left almost (detail removed by Moderator) ago, but he’s got a solicitor so now I have to have one for divorce, financial settlement and child access issues. My solicitor can not do anything until she can open a file but I can’t get the funding. I have bad credit so a loan isn’t an option, friends and family can’t help and there isn’t any money to be had by a financial settlement from my point of view, not sure about my ex. The problem is the family home is in negative equity but my ex wants off the mortgage, so he is trying to get me and our daughter out so he can take it over and then sell. We don’t want to move out of the family home, and I know we don’t have to but the emotional torment is that it’s what he wants for his own selfish gains, which hurts. I feel like he still has control over me. I don’t need legal advice, I need them to be able to act and negotiate with my ex’s solicitor.

Sorry for the ramble, if anyone has any pearls of wisdom in this situation.

[Confused123]

Hi Ladies

We all seem to be in similar scenario , i can only think apply for divorce on own u just need to make statement on basis of divorce and themn for finaincail proceedings try a solicitor and say charge willbe set of against house or some one has suggested to me a open access barrister but look into it as u have to stillhve to do loads yorself

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