Play fight

[I.dont.know.]

So me and my partner were play fighting he grabbed my (body part removed by Moderator) and was digging his nails in I told him it was hurting and he didn’t let go so I punched his (body part removed by Moderator) to try get him off but he responded by punching my (body part removed by Moderator) so hard that it dented my (body part removed by Moderator) and caused bruised bone. Instead of been sorry and checking I was ok he stormed out the room and sent me a load of txts from the other room saying he should kill himself etc etc

[Twisted Sister]

Hello I.dont.know.

I hope you are ok after this physical assault.  What you’ve described doesn’t sound like any kind of ‘play’.  Playing should be fun and safe, certainly not painful, or aggressive and physically violent.

What happened immediately after the violent physical assault was emotional blackmail.  He knew he’d done wrong and hurt you badly and instead of showing remorse, apologising and upset at himself, he’s blackmailed you into feeling potentially worried about how he is, with threats of suicide!

You need to know that his threats of suicide are not your responsibility, they are his reaction to gain back control of the situation knowing that he was actually at fault.  Take his threats of suicide seriously and pass them to professionals to help him, by contacting the police who will do any necessary referrals and follow up to get him the help he may need.  Whether he wants to take the help is his choice, but you are not the one best qualified to support him through his suicide risk, and it will only be his choice if he decides to go through with this, and not your responsibility.

Look after yourself and try to see the lines or boundaries between what’s down to him, and what’s down to you and grow them.  He’s showing you who he really is, try to hear and see him for who he is and what he is trying to do to you.

Are you able to get medical help for the physical injuries he caused you?

Warmest wishes

ts

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