Police interview

[Breadandbutterpudding]

So my ex has been called in for a (detail removed by Moderator) finally. They initially only said they could do something about physical charges. I’ve had to really push them regarding the coercive control law. (detail removed by Moderator)

Does anyone know how long it takes to get an outcome from a voluntary interview? He’s known about it for (timeframe removed by Moderator) which worries me as he’s had plenty of time to get his story straight. Feel like I’m the only one who knows how sneaky and charming he can be.

I’m not a very emotional person but I’m constantly on the verge of crying today

[Marmalade]

Hi Breadandbutterpudding,

Firstly take a deep breath and step back as this will be out of your control and can eat you up. There are a number of us on here who have been in your position. Experiences vary with police, some happy, some v upset with how they have been treated. With coercive control cases most people seem to have been left disappointed. I hope you live in an area with a supportive and well trained police force. Many of us don’t.

So, it’s really good they are interviewing. Quite a lot of cases don’t get that far but are closed early. Maybe it’s cos there is evidence, maybe pressure from you, maybe it’s a force already being complained about so they are doing something. If you saw the article on the BBC website a couple of months ago you will know how terribly victims of coercive control can be treated by police,

As for timescale, a lot will depend what he says and if there is evidence. If he no comments, denies or offers a different version to you, and you do not have a body of independent supporting evidence then you run the risk of a NFA as a “he said she said”. Coercive control is hard to prove. Women with evidence have found it hard to persuade police to act. Training is poor. If your ex admits anything then they may be able to act. Ultimately it depends on what he says, your supporting evidence and the attitude of police.

Keep your expectations low. Something like 98% of CC cases don’t get to court anf often those that do are attached to physical assault charges. I hope your case gets through but have a realistic view and carry on your process of recovery making sure you have as much family, friend and professional support as possible. Good luck.

[Breadandbutterpudding]

Hi Marmalade

Thanks so much for replying. (legal details removed by Moderator).

It’s terrible we have to constantly push to prove ourselves when still trying to come to terms with it. Makes you feel like you’re the one on trial

[Plant-mama]

I’m going through something similar. (legal details removed by Moderator) My police force is very supportive and giving lots of explanations along the way but they’re so busy and sometimes takes time to get back to me. Keep going but most importantly look after yourself and work on you. I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult and awful time.

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