Present

[EbonyRaven]

To lay down a backstory, a small time ago my oh took my bank card (without my permission)and used it to buy lots of alcohol, amongst other things, for himself. That for me was the very last straw, and what put me on the path of seeking an occupation order at long last.

Anyway, at the moment he’s still living in my home. I have detached and keep reminding him he needs to leave, look for a place etc., and I don’t cook for him, do his washing or the like any more.

So, this morning he comes waltzing into the living room with one of those generic body wash box sets. You know the ones; on sale in most department stores and supermarkets, tries to look like a bit of an upmarket brand but everyone knows it’s not. The thing you get that distant aunt you haven’t seen much in the last year, or the dinner lady at the children’s school.
It’s not wrapped, not even in a bag. There’s loads of wrapping paper and tape here. He hands it to me with a ‘Merry Christmas’.

I just flipped out. I couldn’t help myself. I asked him straight up if he seriously thought I should be pleased with a ‘present’ bought with my own money! His answer was to say that he’d thought hard about the presents he’d got me last year and I didn’t like them, so he’d got me ‘smellies’ as ‘everyone likes those.’ He also said he’d had it for ages.

I hadn’t said I didn’t like last years presents, ever, but I’ve come to recognise it when he attempts to deflect now so I took no notice of that. I’ve stopped defending myself (e.g. saying ‘I did like them’), as it is playing into his hands.

I checked my supermarket online account and lo and behold, there was this set in my ‘things you’ve bought instore recently list. Hahaha. He’d got it around about the time he went buying the alcohol.

Not sure if I find it massively sad, or hilarious.

The total lack of thought that went into what was bought, the generic, anyone would like it ‘gift’ that he thought would be a salve to my raw, gaping, wounds, and the fact that he couldn’t even be bothered to wrap it if he thought it would be any type of peace offering at all.

Just indicative of why I no longer want to be in this relationship. I’d be more hurt if I had anything left, but I think I’ll just smile about it.

[Iwantmeback]

I think smiling about the whole sorry episode is the only thing left to do in this situation. I can’t even begin to describe my non day.
IWMB 💕💕

[EbonyRaven]

I’m sorry to hear that Iwantmeback. I truly hope there is joy on the horizon for you. xx

[freedomtochoose]

I hope there is joy on the horizon for you two.
ftc
x

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