Pushing

[Bluesbear]

Hi,

I posted a while back questioning if my partner was being abusive with the way he treats me. Such as name calling, demanding I do things for him and not giving up until I do what he wants or calling me horrible names if I don’t.

Anyway I’ve recently spoken to my GP, or more I blurted a lot out to her unexpectedly at an appointment. She felt there was coercive control there and also due to other reasons she referred me to a social prescriber.

After talking with the social prescriber it got me thinking. One of the questions she asked, has my partner ever been physically abusive to me. I said no, but then when thinking about it there has been times where he has pushed me over on to the ground. He has never hit me, so I’ve always felt he isn’t physically abusive but the more I think about it, I am wondering would pushing count as physical abuse? He has left me with bruises from pushing me to the ground. This isn’t something he does often and in fact he hasn’t done it for some time now.

Sorry for the long post.

[Lisa]

Hi BluesBear,

Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Physical abuse is not just about hitting- you have described his other abusive behaviours- bullying you into complying with his demands. pushing you to the ground is another form of abusive behaviour- its about power and control. Any form of domestic abuse is unacceptable and you don’t deserve to be treated in this way.

If you aren’t already I would encourage you to contact your local domestic abuse service for ongoing support with what is happening.

Take care and keep posting

Best Wishes

Lisa

[Watersprite]

Yes it’s domestic abuse and as for pushing yes that’s physical abuse. Sometimes the psychological abuse leaves deeper scars – those ones can’t be seen. It is so brave you are opening up and talking to others. Keep leaning on support as you learn more and post on here too if it helps. You deserve better x

[Bluesbear]

Thank you for the responses. I feel like I am at least finally starting to realise how things really are and that it is not a good relationship.

I have been give the number to refer to my local domestic abuse service, so I am going to try and phone them tomorrow, or as soon as I possibly can.

I have felt so trapped for such a long time really, just opening up is making me feel like there is hope.

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