Question about using social media without ex knowing

[Lightwunderkind20]

This might be a bit random but I was hoping someone might have some knowledge on this!

I came off social media years ago because it caused so many problems between me and my now ex partner.

I’m not interested in posting pics or comments or anything, or even linking with anyone else but there is a support group that I would like to join that is only available on either Facebook or Instagram.

So my question is, if I set up an account so that I can join this support group- will my ex be able to find out I’m on there? Not on the support group, but just on Instagram or Facebook?

I just wouldn’t want him to know. It’s been years so I’m not sure what information you have to put in- and for example, if you have to put a phone number in- if he is on the site (which he joined shortly after we separated- I was informed by a family member)- would it ‘alert’ him that someone whose phone number he has is on there?

Any advice appreciated

[Lisa]

Hi,

Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. Its understandable that this is causing you some anxiety. I would suggest that if you decide to join any social media site- to make your settings private. You shouldn’t need your contact number to sign up either.

There is more information on the website regarding covering your tracks online that you may find useful.

You deserve to feel free to access the support you need

Best Wishes

Lisa

[Lightwunderkind20]

Thank you Lisa, that’s helpful- I’ll check out that link x

[Madfan336]

This struck a cord with me. I shut down facebook our whole marriage because he was so jealous but he probably didn’t want me on there because too many people know what he’s like!

[StrongLife]

I too got off social media. I blocked my phone to ex. I no longer have contact because it was all abuse from him. Or fails and hang up.

It was all a hard path go for this. You are to be commended in getting off social media like you did.

[Eggshells]

I also left social media but have picked it up again under an alias.

Under GDPR they should not be allowed to share your details without your consent so lock down your profile as tight as a drum and decline all consents.

I have had a couple of issues. One forum dedicated to women’s health issues refused to accept me because I use a fake name and a picture of (detail removed by Moderator) as my profile pic.  I explained my situation but they still refused.  Ultimately, there are still a lot of people who don’t understand or care and you may meet discrimination because it is too dangerous for you to reveal your identity.

I had the same problem with a social networking site which is specifically for women and they were much more understanding.

Good luck getting back online and I wish you a happy, positive and safe experience xx

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