Rant

[Better-days]

I havnt posted in a few weeks I feel so fed up and just need to rant i first joined this forum about 3 years ago and have been going round in the same circle since desperate to leave but terrified I’m putting my kids at more risk but the more he does the stronger I’m getting. I admire so many of you girls on here I need some of your strength. My son said to me today as he was playing outside he herd his dad shouting it broke me. I look at my kids and my heart breaks I want to do right for them. I will be forever sorry for bringing then into this. My sons birthday coming up along with Christmas and it’s a reminder that these should be some of the best times and they fill me with dread. If anyone has struggled today Im with you. Im going to try get up in the morning with a strong mind and take another step forward to leaving even if it’s just taking personal things out the house. Just anything to remind myself I can be strong.

[Bananaboat]

Firstly, I’m sending you a massive hug. This life isn’t easy and it’s clear you’re doing all you can right now to protect your kids.

I stayed way too long thinking it was right for the kids but they hear & feel so much more than we realise. They pick up the cues like we do – the way he comes in from work, the looks, that tension in the air. It took several things for me to leave and way longer than it should’ve but one of those was realising I only had a few years left of my eldest being a child and he was ruining that, then I realised my youngest will also have every birthday, holiday & Christmas spoilt and that wasn’t what I wanted their childhood memories to be.

Look some people leave big bang but many of us take baby steps, one at a time and maybe stumble back a few at times. But thinking of the life you want, looking into how, saving things or moving documents are all steps towards the door. I know it’s tough but you sound like you’re doing the right thing so give yourself kudos for that!!! And give your kids a massive hug xx

[Better-days]

Wow I needed this thank you x

[nbumblebee]

You know my story you know im with you every step of the way.
I too feel this pain every day and will never forgive myself.
We can only do what we can what we believe is best theres no right way i guess. Its ok you know to stay whilst you sort this out to wait until you are ready this is your life only you can live it.
Sending you hugs you know where my om is should you need it.
Try and trust yourself more and doubt yourself less xxxxxxx

[Better-days]

Thank u I know you feel it. We r all just doing our best to survive u guess big hugs x

[Happybelle]

Well done :). You can’t put a timeframe on when you’ll be ready to go. I always thought it would be so easy but crikey I was wrong. Keep on keeping on. Tomorrows another day.

[Better-days]

Thank you I admire your bravery. Xx

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