reflecting on anger

[Phenomenon]

hi all,

does anybody reflect on their abusive partners past actions? Mt ex would get angry at the tiniest things. sometimes I would go and get some drinks after my long day and some food and one time I forgot serviettes and condiments and straws etc and my ex went extremely violent because of this. We had all of these things so I didn’t understand the sudden rage but it instilled a fear deep within myself that everything should be perfect in the future so as to avoid this rage. I was massively treading on eggshells and at the time I normalised this behaviour. I miss the ex that I fell in love with. My ex told me that I made them angry and violent and because they only acted like it around me I believed it for a long time. Why am I grieving this relationship that upon reflection was majorly unhealthy?

Phenomenon x

[Bulbssprouting]

Grief is normal, it is grief for the person you thought you were with, and the hope you had. Don’t be ashamed of it. Many hugs

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