Reported to the police

[Catjam]

I have filled in an online form to the police. I feel sick.

He used to joke that he could kill a person and dispose of their body and no one would ever find it. That if he was ever locked out of our house it wouldn’t matter because he has a way of getting in.

We had another discussion the other night because he wants us to get back to normal, if we start laughing and having fun it will make everything ok. I said I was too angry for that. He claims he will do anything it takes to make it right so I asked him to leave. Nope not leaving. Then I asked him to explain to our kids, who are all grown up, exactly why our marriage was in trouble. Yes he would, has he done it yet? No and probably never will.

Then I asked how he would feel if our eldest rang distressed saying her boyfriend had gotten upset about her going out with her mates, saying she was wearing (detail removed by Moderator) and ripping it off her back? Apparently our eldest wouldn’t go out dressed like that. So I said how clever he was with words, twist it enough to hurt me.
I asked him outright why he had done that very thing to me, all those years ago. Silence. So (detail removed by Moderator) I asked again. Apparently he can’t remember an argument from so long ago. End of discussion. He is being as nice as pie.

[KIP.]

Absolutely no point in discussions with an abuser. Lie deny delay distract. Well done on reporting to the police. Make sure you add about the threats to kill. Extremely important x he won’t ever accept any responsibility for his abuse and he will always abuse you. You’ve wasted enough energy and emotions oh him. Save that energy for yourself x talk to your local women’s aid for support x

[gettingtired]

Hey, KIP’s right. It’s a waste of time and of your precious energy.
My partner attacked me (detail removed by Moderator) years ago and when I brought it up lately he just found every excuse and said how I’ve done this or that to him blah blah. There’s absolutely no point. I know it’s frustrating as we want them to see things for ehat they are and try to make them understand but they don’t want to.
How manipulative of him to twist that comment around about how your daughter ‘wouldn’t go out like that anyway’. It’s like talking to a brick wall with these men.
That’s extremely brave of you to report him so well done x*x

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