Repressed anger

[Wanttoleave]

I just wondered if anyone else had any advice on coping with bottled up emotions which you are too afraid to voice due to the reprecussions

Just letting your partner/husbands do what ever they like to keep the peace.
But then crying randomly, or punishing yourself instead as that emotion had to go somewhere?

Thanks

[nbumblebee]

I often take it out on myself in various ways its very damaging and can often take more out of me than his behaviour. I am so full of anger and guilt I dont know where to put it all. I see a counsellor I have a PT but I cant seem to let off steam to either of them im too embarressed. Silly eh im paying all this money but yet i still cant let it go.
But I think by talking even just on here it does release some of the hurt if I feel overwelmed like im gonna take it out on myself i try and reach out on here or I pm a member or I chat about nothing to a friend anything to release the tension. Take a look at twistedsisters posts alot of people recommended mindfullness counting breathing these also helps they calm you down and help you center yourself it isnt easy i still cant do it but i do count and that does help. Exercise is also an amazing release I often do weights I do a bit of boxing and walking running are all goid ways to release anger. One more tip buy yourself a pillow it must be a new one. Write all the things you are angry about either on it or pop them into the pillow case then scream hit shout cry into that pillow for as long as you need then burn it. Go somewhere safe and burn it. Release that anger.
Hope something here is helpful but sweetie I feel it too
Stay safe and take care xx

[BlueberryField]

As nbumblebee mentioned, writing here helps a tiny bit. Especially if you get a reply back from someone at least you know someone took time to read your post and reply and you know that person can relate in some way since we are all here for the same reason – abuse. For the first time in so many years I finally talked about emotional and psychological abuse to my mum. I kept the physical abuse out, as it’s too embarassing to talk and I feel ashamed by it. But even just talking about psychological abuse has lifted some stones off my chest. I was always scared to talk to my mum but the fact is she’s been through this with my own father and I know she understands especially when she didn’t get support like she gives me from her own mother, because she was critising her a lot too. Even if you could talk to someone on here and just rant whenever you need to to someone who’s been in that situation it does help to release some of those bottled up emotions.

I am more than happy to chat if you ever want to either discuss situations or just rant when you have a bad day you are more than welcome to message me. 😊

[Footballfan1]

Hi Wanttoleave,

I understand your feelings and frustrations.
I found channeling my anger into exercise helps.
I started small, and built up bit by bit.
I also cycle to work.
My mental health has improved massively.
It takes time to work though, around 8 weeks before seeing a decent change.
I have much more energy, pick healthier foods and feel less stressed.
Keep talking on here too, as others have suggested.
It helps to vent and release the anger xx

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