Scared and confused, needing help

[LookingUp]

Hi, I’m hoping some members here can help me with some supportive advice.
I’ve literally just come out of an abusive relationship this week and what I’ve experienced is hitting me like a tonne of bricks, I feel very overwhelmed and emotional and not sure how to start the recovery process. I have experienced being spat at, drinks thrown over me, belongings and house smashed up, isolated from friends, gas lighted, belittled, controlled, called the most awful things, financially taken advantage of and more. There’s been some physical abuse and he’s stabbed and slashed himself also in rages of temper. I have been terrified at times and feeling unsafe in my own home. He can’t see his behaviour is wrong, as I have deserved it and brought it on myself, he can justify it all and I’ve believed it.
I could go on but really what I want to ask members is how have you managed during these initial days? I really don’t know where to start with myself and my emotions are all over the place. Thank you.

[Twitcher]

Hi Looking Up,

I’m so sorry you’ve had to live such a horrendous life and one that you never deserved. I’m still living with my husband but divorcing so I can’t say what its like to leave but things that have helped me through until now are opening up to my GP who referred me to Refuge, talking to a specialist DA Counsellor who has been invaluable and the last couple of weeks posting on this forum. I don’t have any friends due to being isolated and not much close family but if you have these I’m sure they’d jump at the chance to help you in any way they can. You should be so proud of yourself for leaving and I’m sure the lovely, strong ladies will have lots of advice for you. Stay strong lovely, your life is so precious x*x

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