Scared he would force himself on me

[I.dont.know.]

Unfortunately I’m still with my partner and still sharing the same bed.

Our sex life through out the whole relationship has always been terrible and usually non existent which suits me fine coz I can’t stand him! But last night I got a little scared as I asked him to get off me and stop touching me and he just wouldn’t listen kept trapping me with his legs and trying to dry hump me!! Luckily I go to bed with PJ’s on! But he just had no respect or regard for the fact i’d said no and get off me and leave me alone. He kept saying (Detail removed by Moderator) He makes me sick you can’t go from shouting and balling at someone 2 minutes before to expecting things in the bedroom. Luckily I’ve managed to avoid his advances for at least (Detail removed by Moderator) months now.

[KIP.]

Trust your gut. Eventually my ex raped me. Abuse always gets worse and I think he’s beginning to push boundaries in bed which is what happened to me. My ex expected sex after an abusive episode. It was sick and soul destroying.

[Confused-and-alone]

My husband started many years ago throwing a full tantrum if I refused sex so I learnt it was quicker to just let it happen even if I wasn’t in the mood.

Recently as I’ve come to see his behaviour as abusive and so pulled away from him I’ve said no to sex firmly and refused to open my eyes or engage at all – essentially playing dead – and he’s carried on with what he wants without stopping to wonder why I’m not responding at all. He also on one occasion after not speaking to me for a couple of days straight out forced me to do some things that I really wasn’t comfortable with – he was very aggressive and menacing and I was scared.

I promise you this kind of behaviour will only get worse. He has shown a total lack of respect for your wants/wishes/feelings and nothing will change that. Get out before he goes further. Having said that I know how difficult that is – I’m still there myself.

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